my boyfriend of 2 years recently left me for my best friend. i’m currently dealing with the loss in the hospital because i was attempting to take my own life. i feel so betrayed.
at the same time tomorrow is my best friends 18th birthday and my boyfriends moms birthday (we were pretty close). i wasn’t invited to the party (not that i could leave the hospital anyway) but i want to drop off a card or something.. same with the mom. i’m confused, is this a good idea? what do i do?
I wouldn’t try anything because that might lead up to more problems.
remember when those congressmen got those cards with anthrax in them?
nothing he left you for your BEST FRIEND
if she accepted your ex…then she’s not your friend…forget about them…
I would say that if you weren’t invited to the party, then it was probably for a reason. They realize things with you are going to be awkward since she was your best friend and took your boyfriend, and they may also be feeling guilty that you tried to take your own life and are not ready to see you.
I would suggest not sending a card or anything. Just let time pass. Maybe next year you will be included in the festivities.
Dont do anything
You need to just concentrate on yourself and for now forget about
other people & their birthday’s.
I say it’s not a very good idea. Forget about them just try to get your life on track first.Best of luck girl I am praying for you.
Don’t do anything for them they don’t deserve anything from you.
That asshole is part of the reason you tried to take your own life! What a TERRIBLE piece of SHIT friend! You can do wayyyyyy better than the both of them sweetie and don’t ever let anyone make you believe otherwise!
A real man doesn’t leave you for another girl, especially not your so-called-best-friend. Face it, he’s just a little boy girl shopping. And think of it this way what goes around must come back around right? So since he left you his girlfriend of 2 years for her, he’s bound to leave her for someone else. So don’t you even worry about it, they aint gonna last long and if they do He’s not gonna treat her any better than he treated you.
So forget about em both, get a super hot and cool nice guy new boyfriend and a fab bff cuz honey thats what you should have! Not losers like them. Who needs them? Let them drown in their own misery. They don’t care about you, so stop caring about them and get out there and find people that do! And you will, I’m telling you, if you try hard enough, you will.
Good luck girl
Stay strong.
dont take ur lyf agen, y wud u give ur lyf to sum one who’s not worth it..
dey are mybe long tym lovers, longer dan ur relationship with dem, dat dey didnt tell u..
do ur best to forgive..time heals dey say..
Well it depends since you want to send acard does that mean you wish to forgive them? And if so you should address it in the card. Or maybe you don’t want to forgive them, but perhaps need to get things off your mind for closure. |You should write to them on how you feel, and get all your feelings out. Even if you don’t get a response back you know they will read it and at least you will be heard. If anything it will help with your own healing process. Which I hope you feel better soon, take care of yourself.
Hmm i kind of went through the same thing but a bit different. I kept getting dumped by my boyfriends and couldnt understand why. Later i found out that my supposed best friend had been sleeping with them. I had never felt so betrayed before. I started to cut and withdrew from everyone.
The best thing you can do is to cut all ties with them, they are nothing if they are going to do that to you. You deserve more than that! No friend should ever do that to you, friends dont hurt others like the way they did. If you hold onto them you wont be able to move on.
It can take a while to get your head sorted out and begin to trust again. It took me two years to be in another relationship. I personally decided that i would have a break and work on myself.
Go out with friends, do some sports and have fun.Make a clean slate, thats the best thing you can do. Actually one thing that helped was looking for one thing during the day, it can be something beautiful or something you admire or just noticed. Think about it and then look for tomorrows one.
Good luck and i hope you know your worth more than they are.
drop off a card if you want to. I know this is such a hard thing to go through, but things like this happen and then that passes too and things change again. He could decide he’s not interested in her shortly and wants you back. Pray—God answers prayer!
He is near to the crushed in spirit and he heals the broken hearted. Do you have a Bible? Read Ps. 34 and 37. Look up Ps. 147:3.
His mercies are new every morning. Great is his faithfulness. see Lam. 3:22-23
Keep your eyes on the Lord and he will give you peace. Isaiah 26:3-4
Ask with thanksgiving and he will keep your mind and heart in Christ Jesus (see Philippians 4:6-7).
Ask and he will give; knock and he will open— (See Matthew 7:7-8)
don’t do anything concentrate on your self and she isn’t your best friend if she betrayed you and you will find true friends that wouldn’t take your man away from you !!!!!!! you could call the mom and wish her a happy b day stay a live please don’t hurt your self please you have a lot to live for you will find the right man that will want to take you down the isle and have kids with stay alive you are Young to be thinking this !!!!!!!!
dont go! if she was ur real best friend, she would have never done this! u deserve a better guy ^& a better best friend. i mean do u really want to be friends with someone who leaves u just for a guy??
i wouldn’t do anything,your so-called boyfriend left you for your best friend,and i know how you feel,but neither one of them is worth taking your life.he is a scumbag,and she is too.best friends don’t do each other that way.i will pray for you and your health,
Do not send any cards. Do not make any contact with people unless you have cleared it with your dr and talked it over with your therapist. You need to concentrate on your own life and your own well being. Direct your thoughts to your own life and your own future. Concentrate on getting better.
I don’t think it would be a good idea to drop off a card nor should you mail them one at this time–instead you should wait till thinks work themselves out. Consider getting your health in order then if it is meant to be (a friendship down the line) then you could give them a Happy Belated Birthday card. If that isn’t the answer you wanted I do hope you get better.
No, it is not a good idea and I’ll tell you why:
It’s just too close for comfort; I’m sure the mom would understand if you missed this birthday, but the friend might not appreciate it (you know, the guilt thing and all); and besides, you should be thinking about yourself and getting well, not about others, and especially not traitors.
Who gives a flying possum about her birthday? You are in the hospital! They should be coming to see YOU! The card would be a wonderful revenge device, but why continue to dwell on that one? She wasn’t your friend, stop trying to be hers!
As far as the mom is concerned, I’m sure this whole thing is pretty awkward for her. Wish her a happy birthday at another time. As for the ex, he’ll get his; they always do.
What I’m saying is, Leave those people alone and concentrate on yourself! Find out why you got so angry that you turned it on yourself then work on never doing that again. I’m sure you’re in a world of hurt right now, but you can’t get worked up like this.
The only birthday you should be concerned with is yours and seeing as many of them as you can.
Good luck!
killing yourself over your two faced best friend and boyfriend isn’t worth it… live your life the best as you can be… eventually the pain will be gone in time and distance.
forget them, trust me it’s not worth killing your life over.
Well . stay with your best friend :}
best friends stay forever ..
but boyfriends Go and come … and maybe they stay but 1%
send her a card saying
” i had a gift that i was planning on giving you. but it looks like you already got one. ”
implying that the boyfriend was the gift…lol. she will be like…
“that B*tch!”
it will be good.
im so sorry honey! that sounds horrible i will be praying for you! i think you should definately send a card because forgivness is the first step to recovery. i would send them and say something about just happy birthday blah blah blah and everything i wouldnt rekindle those relationships though because they might lead to more hurt. Good luck!
Why Is She Still Your Best Friend?
She Obviously Has No Respect For Your Friendship..
You Weren’t Invited So Why Leave Them A Card?
You could…kill them with kindness…make them feel uncomfortable…and miserable…
But it is obvious her friendship was artificial.
She is a horrible person…you don’t need her nor him
in your life. May karma catch up to them one day.
1st, i feel really bad that your boyfriend and your friend would do that an that you are in the hospital. No one deserves to be treated like that no matter what you did in the past. I think you should let them be together, it probably won’t work out any way. I mean I think you should relax and focus about getting a lot better from trying to die. 2nd, your heart will be broken a lot in life and guess what: life goes on. Don’t try to kill yourself because of one thing because life goes on and there will always be good things and bad things in life. The bad things will build you up. They won’t make you stiff and heartless, they will build your character and help you to be a stronger person.When someone hurts you, you might not want to at the moment, but you will want to thank them for the things they did to you because you learned.
She’s much of a friend for taking your boyfriend. I think you shouldn’t get them anything at all for their birthdays. What’s more, after what they’ve done, i really don’t think they’ll be expecting anything from you.
Suure, I mean giving her a card wouldn’t hurt. And plus, if you two were pretty close it’s not as if your and your boyfriend’s problems have anything to do with your and his mom’s friendship. But why don’t you write the cards and ask somebody esle to drop them off for you, instead of you doing so yourself? :] Oh, and by the way, she wasn’t your best friend if she actually had a cheek to break you and your boyfriend up. xx Get better soon. :]
why didnt your BEST FRIEND, invite you to HER BIRTHDAY PARTY? i wouldnt even try to get her something. im sorry, that would bother me if that happened, so dont try to act like it doesnt bother you, because its gonna bother you more.
if that’s your best friend i would not want to know the worst, she is not a friend, he was not a good boyfriend, put them out of your life, close that door, walk out into the sunshine and start a better life, there are good man out there find one, never let your happiness’s depend on someone else we make our on happiness’s, i would say that they are not worth another thought,
still be nice to the mom because then she would feel bad that her son left you. send one with a nice saying. and to your best friend…. nothing
I don’t get why you teenagers get so stressed about these things. I know it’s very insensitive, and I’m sorry about that. I hope you recover from the hospital very soon. Meanwhile, I think you seem like a very nice person, and I don’t think any more lives should be risked because of jerks like your ex. I think you should move on, and even if it is hard, try to forget about him. If you run into him, don’t break down. You should be free of him, and you should let your heart be free also. I know that sounds kind of weird, but I think you deserve better.
Backstabbing bitch. I am sorry you are in the damn hospital and your so called best friend is having a birthday party can I just say What the flying fu** is going on in this friendship.
P.S.
A guy is not worth your life that is the most selfish thing you can do people still love you. Think about your parents.
I would say do nothing if your not 100% certain what to do. I can imagine you were pretty close to your best friend as well as your boyfriends mum and I can imagine his mum may feel sympathy for you over whats happened. I don’t think either of them would expect anything from you for their birthdays. After all your bestfriend will know she has hurt you alot. So in less you are willing to forgive your bestfriend at this stage I would not send a card or give a present as this will give her the wrong impression and if its not what you truly feel and are just doing it because you think you should it will give off mixed messages, which could make things worse between you.