Question by Aby Marie: Boyfriend problem. help will be nice.?
OK, well me and my boyfriend “Matt” have benn going out for 3 months. and he says that he HATES when i talk about other guys with him or in front of him with my friends. and the problem is that HE talks about other girls all the time. and its really starting to piss me off.
this started to happen when this new girl, ill call “Meli” came to our school. me and “meli” became good friends and started hanging out with eachother. but she left me for my friend “adi”
and “Adi” has had problems with her too. she has used us (and as in us i mean our little group or friends) so she left “Adi”
for my boyfriends group. and so me and my friend “sam” has been watching them (them as in my boyfriends group) and “meli” has been a total flirt to “Matt” and i really hate it.
i dont get to spend alot of time with him because he is a grade above me. so it starts to worry me that when im not with him that he is flirting with her or the other way around. what can i do to stop this?
Best answer:
Answer by Thuy Nguyen
Your situation is like a little cycle, and I’m sorry. It seems confusing. But basically, you’re saying that you think they’re into something? Well, you can always confront him and if he ever did care for you, he would try to work it out. Other than that, you’re always welcome to leave him.
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just speak to him thats all you can do, or start chatting to another bloke and when he asks what u doing just say thats how i feel. This happens alot with blokes, you have to trust each other then that way you wont have these doubts about what he does when your not together!
you confront your boyfriend regarding the problem in a gentle way. let him know how you really feel and if he’s honest and trustworthy in the relationship. on the other hand, you could talk to the girl who was flirting with your boyfriend. and confront her in a mature way. good luck ☺
Pay attention to Meli. These girls are usually “dangerous”. Maybe it would be better to talk with Matt, to see how things are going and what he’s expecting of you
lay sum rules down and if he dont like it then it proves that he aint a great bf and that u can do better who cares if he wants to be with that other girl ur new bf wouldent be half as bad as he was
What you should do is tell him how you feel, and tell that other girl to back off. Even though he is a grade above you, i don’t think you have anything to worry about. Best of luck.
You need to stay calm and talk to him….i stress calm and you have to talk and be nice
you cant..you just gotta make sure your the best damn gf hes likely to have then if she does come on to him it,l be in vain cos all hel want is you..good luck x
tell your bf how you feel and if you cant talk about guys then he cant talk about girls ” whats good for the goose is good for the gander” and as for the girl tell her to back off or tell your boyfriend that you don’t like the fact that she has been flirty with him and if he doesn’t like it don’t wait for him to dump you you dump him first its embarrassing for guys when they get dumped.
make things clear with your boy…make him understand what you think and then face this girl…let everybody see who she really is…a b****…oh!…1 more thing…man always talk about women…we love it…but two seconds later..if we see a ball, a tv or food…we soon forget!…hehehehe!
You need new friends. The guy’s a flirt and he can’t take it when you do similar things, so he picks on you.
You cannot watch or influence him either; and it’s affecting your relationship with other people. Worrying won’t help.
Tell him you are not ready for him as a bf. Be firm. Make yourself attractive to other guys. He will either start treating you better; or you will get a guy who appreciates you. Either way you’re a winner. Good luck.
Talk talk talk!!!!
The only way to stop this is by conversing with your bf…..coz of all ppl…you can make him..an only him understand properly…tell him everything avbt it…but dnt make it look like ur accusing him or anything..!!!
And tell this grl whoz tryinna flirt..toback off..and stay away frm ur guy!
Best of luck…take care…dnt fret! =]
I think you should confront your boyfriend and let him know how you feel. If you can trust him, try not to let what Meli is doing bother you.