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Question by Sara: Do you think he is playing “games”, or really into me?
A couple of months ago a guy friend of mine asked me for a drink. I had a boyfriend of a couple of years and I didn’t think anything of it. BF and I have been having problems, but I thought that we would work it out. My guy friend flirted a little but I didn’t think much of it. I enjoyed the time that I spent with him and so invited him over one night to play cards. I thought that I only saw him as a friend, but he kissed me out of the blue. I ended up liking the kiss and finding him very attractive.

I broke up with my boyfriend because of my feelings for my new guy. He then asked me if we had a future. About a month later we ended up having sex, even though I was worried about moving to fast. We were intimate about 5 times and the chemistry was amazing.

One day when my old boyfriend was over getting some of his things my new guy friend told me that he saw his car at the house and he asked if I was trying to trick him in order to” get his hopes up that bf left”. Then he started asking whether I noticed that we don’t have much to talk about other than the activities that we do together.

About a week ago he sent me a txt message saying “I think that we should spend time w/out drinking or having sex.” He also told me that he likes me and is trying to figure us out, and we already have our favorite activities in common. He then asked if I realized that we most times don’t have much to talk a obout other than the activities that we do together. He said it has been hard given the situation that i moved further away. He said that he thinks that we should not expect kisses or hugs, but giving them and getting them should make us happy and there is a time for that.

I agreed, but I found it sudden and different then any other guy I have dated. We took a couple of bike rides and had fun, but he didn’t even try and hug me. The second bike ride he gave me a hug. I didn’t contact him at all the next day and he sent me a txt msg asking me how I was doing. He also sent me a txt at night asking what I did that day.

Last night we agreed to go on a bike ride but early this morning he said “I forgot I am riding with friends a ways away, have a nice day.” (which I remember them saying before. I txt him back “well, do you have plans tonight?” Now I feel like I am waiting to see if he wants to talk to me. I hate it when I feel like he is brushing me off, we hang out a few times a week.

I feel like he is trying to see if I am independent enough to be his gf, because he said he needs an independent and strong woman.

Best answer:

Answer by wileycoyote471
guys are so hard to figure out! he doesn’t seem to be playing games, not on purpose anyway. it seems like he wants to take things slowly, but perhaps too slowly for you. tell each other how you feel, communication is the key thing.

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