We were together for four years and then there was a strain in the relationship and when we parted he started seeing a past student and was told but he still went on. He was 36 and she 19.
How is this to be dealt with by me now that he is hooking up with me? I am so hurt!
he wants pussy dont forgive him
Kick his sorry a@@ to the kerb and tell him you don’t sleep with dirty old men!
I wouldnt forgive him if I were you
You say: I forgive you, but if you ever hook up with a dirty slut like that again i will remove your testicles.
don’t
You cannot go back to him
he is a dog and will bite you again and again
are you so desperate for a man you will let this dog back into your bed?
dam girl have some self respect
you can love someone and not be able to live with them
Move on….He’s a douche-bag.
You don’t.
forgive and for get thats life
you dont..i am a strong believer that once you break up with someone, thats it, no more going back.
If you can’t put the past hurt behind you maybe you two don’t need to be together.
Sounds like some huge age difference there.
Apparently you have no control over who you choose to hook up with.
Please find a guy who truly loves and respects you. This guy is not good boyfriend or husband material.
Forgive? How about getting the strength to tell him to get lost? He obviously has no intention of staying with anyone for any period of time and the only thing a 36 year old could have in common with a 19 year old is sex.
If you want more than a casual fling, move on.
i say get a new boyfreind!! that is not right! you should not be seeing a man sick enough to see someone almost 20 years younger than him!!!!!!
My GOD. That’s really complicated. Well, if you believe that you actually WANT to be with him, then go ahead. but don’t just try to forgive if it’s going to make you miserable, okay?
you dont. sometimes you gotta let go. even if you still love them.
theres more fish in the sea. though that prolly a bunch of bull. if there were then there wouldnt be such thing as a soal mate..
peace..
Well just know that you’re obviously not the guilty one here, and shouldn’t be in the future.
As for specifics, I can’t give you any because it’s your relationship and relationships are a private thing, different for every individual and experienced differently by every individual.
Just do what’s good for you, no matter to whether it is good for him or not. If he’s willing to be a good influence on your life, and you’re willing to let him be, make sure you don’t bend over backwards to try and change him or see him as a good person. If he’s good for you he’ll be good to you.
Don’t forgive. Show him that you’re not desperate and deserve better by getting better. Anyone that would do this to someone else doesn’t deserve a second chance. Once a cheat, always a cheat.
First of all… he dated a girl WAY too young for him. And, him wanting to get back together with you just tells you that he’s not committed and all he wants is to fill the title of “girlfriend”. I wouldn’t go out with him again… he’ll only hurt you a second time.
Obviously when someone strays outside of a relationship, when you allow them back in…you should definitely make them work a heck of a lot to gain your trust. You had no self control to already hook up with him once again. I’ve had two girls in my life cheat on me…and they didn’t get a second chance. For a year and 1/2 I didn’t cheat and had opportunities with beautiful girls…if you can’t withstand temptation then who says it wouldn’t/won’t happen again? Nah
I dont think you can have a relationship with someone like him. Think of what your parents might say if you ended up marrying him and they knew what happened with him in the past. Dont be so hurt by what he did. Understand that he doesnt have any self-control. You might love him and sometimes people fall in love with people that are not quite perfect. Many people have problems.
He is definitely not someone to be in a relationship with. If you just want to hook up with him for a while then I dont see anything wrong with that. Just let him be aware that you dont see him as someone to be in a long-term relationship with. He will most likely cheat on you again. If he gets upset when you decide to see someone else then obviously he is a hypocrite, isnt he?
The past is a great predictor of the future. He has set his pattern…You are so hurt….you can forgive him and try to make a go of it if you want….but….there will never be any real security that he won’t do it again….He did it once….
And…there are two people in this relationship…you have a say as to whether or not the two of you hook up…..he can’t hook up with you without your consent….Decide what you want….you say you’re still hurt. If you are serious, and he is serious, then it needs to get fixed before you can begin to forgive…and heal….
Has he even bothered to go thru the motions of saying he’s sorry and it won’t happen again? Cause if he hasn’t then run….if he doesn’t feel bad, then it is definitely going to keep happening.
If he does appologize, well..that’s not enough…he actually needs to regain your trust…not up to you to forgive him if he hasn’t done anything to regain your trust.
So, how can you forgive him? time…and regaining trust….
Good luck!
If your so hurt why are you even talking to this creep i wouldn’t give him the time of day much less the chance to hook up with me . he did you dirty once and chances are he will do it Again. I know you can do better than this. once a relationship is over it should stay over in my opinion I have never seen one work out the 2nd time around to much baggage that needs to be worked thru. well good luck hope i have helped you some