I am so proud of him but I am not sure what to expect at all,
when should I be getting my first letter?
should i expect a drastic change with him?
My sisters fiance is a retired marine, but he can’t give me the opinion of someone that knows what it is like to wait for someone.
and if there is anything else i should expect, PLEASE let me know.
I want to be as prepared as possible.
first letter might take a while. give it 2-3 weeks.
my boyfriend is in the corps, and his brother is actually grauduating next friday, and his recruiter told him he’d be allowed 1 phone call home sometime his first week at boot camp and he wound up not ever getting that call, he just had to send a letter home with his address…. once he was able to even find out what it was.
as far as him changing, he will and he won’t at the same time. he’ll be the same guy, but when he gets out, it will be harder to get him to relax and be himself again. he’ll be more of a man. more responsible. more appreciative of what he’s got- especially you.
my bf’s bro actually wrote in a recent letter that we better have movie tickets to take him to see a comedy the night he gets home. he says he hasn’t laughed in ages. haha
good luck
semper fidelis
He will be issued a female Marine once his training is completed! YOU might as well find yourself a new “Jody”!
its hard but alot of people go throught it i still havent found out where to send letters to my boyfriend but he is in MCT and i think that he sent the information to his bestfriend and told his bestfriend to give it to me but he didnt so i just have to deal with out sending letters but thats ok he is coming home in 8 days this is also my first time really going with out my boyfriend also and what helps me get through it is writing letters to him and saving them so i can eventually send them ooo so we broke up before he went to boot camp and when he came home he was a totally changed person for the better and its been great ever sence you just have to be really sure about someone other wise i think you’ll spend most of your time waiting …. if that makes sence and i think that because i get to wait for him it makes me want and care for him that much more you look forward to seeing him and we hardly ever fight if you send the boys care baskets they like that and make sure you spray a little bit of your perfume on it so he remembers your smell thats what alot of people told me to do when i first asked good luck
Not ot be mean, but be prepared to break up within a year. Normally people in the military get used to their new life and we don’t want to be tied to people back home anymore. We want new everything in our lives. OR he will get out of boot camp and want to get married right off, which is not a good idea either. It is best to just join the military without any boyfriends or girlfriends to worry about.
Hi… That is great, support is exactly what he’ll need.. Plus it’s important for you 2 to keep in-touch while he’s gone. When I went to basic training back in 1988 in NJ it was entirely new and different for me.. i had never been away from home before, it was a new and exciting experience for me.. I didn’t have a girl at the time which for me I was greatful, allot of the other fellows weren’t taking the separation good. I called as much as i could but wasn’t allowed to talk very long so you had to have some idea what you where going to talk about before you called..
The experience enhanced my character, mind and body.
When i enlisted I weighed 135lb, when i came home I weighed 170lb.. I wrote once or twice a week which I thought was adaquite plus sent photo’s of my surroundings.
That helped those at home understand where I was and what I was doing with my training.. The first part of the training I received was personal training, survivability during war time, weapons and ammo, marching and formations plus wearing and care of clothing/uniforms and where to put all those patches they gave us.
I received truck driving training as well as maintaining and servicing the truck.. I already had much of that so i was more of a coach for others not so familiar with a clutch..
) I was gone I believe only 6-months but was soooo glad to be home.. My folks attended my 2nd graduation and drove me home..
After graduation which my folks attended personally. I went back for part 2, advanced Individual Training.. This was to be my skills qualification schooling which for me was mechanics.. I loved it and still do.
Although Marines are trained differently than National Guard, the sequences might still be the same.. What you should do is call his unit or family services through his unit and he should provide this # too you.. When he gets settled he should call you and provide you with his schedule of training so you can schedule a calling time.. Communication is so important here, I can’t stress it enough. You should try and find alternative avenues of activities, it’s the only thing that will pull you through..
Don’t worry too much he is very well cared for, he’s amongst the best trained personnel in the world.. The changes will be more independancy, not from his family but for himself, he should return more self-reliant.. He should have quite allot to talk about when he returns.. I hope he provided you with a ID card?! it is a benefit for you as you can go to any postal exchange (PX) on any base anywhere and buy whatever you like.. It’ll get you on base when he graduates this is something you’ll want to bring your camera as he’ll be dressed up..:-))
Oh, between basic and AIT you get a furlough, or grace.. it’s a week or so break between training for rest, he could come home?! This is quincidental and cannot be guaranteed but can be looked into by calling his unit.. I hope this helps you, write me if you have further/specific questions, ok? GOOD LUCK!! I am proud of all that serve, I am a veteran of 20-years service..:-)))
Semper Fidelis
Just be strong and be there for him. Write him a letter. Be ready for that phone call home. It will make all the difference in the world to him. Boot camp can be a kick in the nuts and its nice to get a letter from home. Its a tough time for both of you. There is a quote that says the only job harder than being in the military is being a military girlfriend/wife. Good luck.
My husband just got back from SOI in december. He left for training back in june. Trust me its not gonna be easy but im sure you’ll be ok. just keep yourself busy. mine left for the summer so it was kinda a bummer. i got my first letter from him like 2 or 3 weeks later. he’s gona be really busy for the first couple weeks so dont b worried if you dont get anything. as far as calling, it’s very rare if he would b allowed to call. the marines basically cut you off from civilization for 13 weeks. as soon as u get his letter write back to him asap!! keep him updated on what’s goin on in the outside world. i wrote my husband 52 times while he was out there and i only got 13 from him. as for breakin up dont believe wat other people say. u kno how you two are and as long as you can accept his military choice no questions asked and as long as you communicate u 2 will be fine. wen my husband went to basic we were only boyfriend girlfriend. after he graduated wen he came home on leave he proposed to me and we got married through civil court. so dont worry. no im not sayin u’ll get married but as long as u both make it work u’ll be fine. u just have to be very patient. i kno he will be for me since i’ll be leaving for my training in may and wont be done until october.
-Grunt Wifey
kendra,
my boyffriend is a marine and he just left for iraq..expect that. follow up on the election it can change alot of things like if hilary goes into office she says she will pull out all the troops from iraq. they get paid for going but on average they dont make shit for money. if the get married they make more money. a lot of people marry random people for the pay raise and to live off base my boyfriend was one of them. divorce rate is 80% you have to be optimistic its hard. i wont make my boyfriend any promises and it works better that way. when you make promises shit happens and you never know what will happen. if you find uot where he will be stationed you can move to whatever state he is stationed at. my boyfriend is stationed at camp pendaltin in san diego. if he got stationed to florida well i would be moving to florida. its better that they go way to fight for our country then go away to prison like other guys. long distance is hard. ultimatly in the end if you two are ment to be you will be together and nothing will get in the way. pictures work and cherish every second with him and show him loyalty because he will be around a lot of jerks who cheat or have been cheated on and dont have faith.
good luck