I’ve been dating him for a year and I can honestly say watching him leave today was one of the hardest and saddest things I’ve ever had to do. I don’t know how I am going to get through the next three months, they seem so long. Could someone please help me with this?
What you need to do is find other girls who have boyfriends or husbands in the military. They will help you get through a lot. Other than that, be patient! He’s going through something just as hard as you are, but he’ll be back. Good luck!
Take it day by day. Nothing is certain. Boot camp changes people and he may or may not be the person you want to be with when he gets back, and vise versa. You obviously love this guy, but this is guard your heart time. Long separations of any kind, much less one where you have authority figures TRYING to estrange you from your loved ones, can be tough.
But you’re a young woman, you have all kinds of things you can do. This would be a great time to attend some college classes, pick up mountain biking, or take those kung fu lessons you always dreamed of. Get with some friends and plan some nights out with each other. Find a social group or do some volunteer work. Put in some OT at work and save up money to buy yourself something nice. (Not him. He just volunteered to spend three months away. Now that may be the best decision in the world for him, but it should be him buying the presents, not you.)
Write him, but don’t go crazy. Once a week is fine. Once a day and you’re coming off as a crazy woman with no self respect. Also, you won’t be helping him when he needs his head in the training.
In short, find a way to enjoy the time to yourself. The less you want to do that, the more you need to.
Good luck!
Write him lots of letters. He probably won’t be able to write as often as you can, but they are given opportunities to write letters periodically. Writing will help you, believe it or not. Other than that, the only thing you can do is keep yourself busy. Find a place where you can do some volunteer work – if you can find a USO office or VA hospital or something, you’lll have people around you who have been in your position and may be able to talk to you about it. Above all else, if you plan on staying with this guy long-term, get used to it. I hate to be so blunt, but he’s going to be deployed sometimes even when there is not a war going on, and he’ll have to leave for training, and sometimes he’ll just have a jerk of a boss who keeps him at work for ridiculous hours for no good reason. After a while you’ll realize that you can love him and still be happy when he’s gone – it just takes some adjusting to get to that point. Good luck!
I am a military wife.I can honestly say it does not get any easier.I wrote to my then fiancee 3 times a week while he was in boot camp . They are allowed to write to you and you are allowed to write to them.you can also send him a picture.Not more than one at a time or the commanding officers will open your mail.They also love when you spray it with perfume.The good part is boot camp will go by faster than you are anticipating.If you are planning to be part of his life long term this will be a common occurrence for you(watching him leave).The key to have a successful military relationship is to make sure you can keep the romance and communication alive ,Surround yourself with good friends and fun.Good luck !!!
Yes, that’s hard.
Try to keep your mind on him, where he is, what it’s like for him, and it may help you remember that the time you’re doing without him is easier than the time he’s going through.
Do things to prepare for his return, mainly, keeping yourself happy and in good health. Write to him, write for him and keep those writings with you until you’re together again. You can journal your wishes for the two of you, your hardships, anything that fills your mind; then later he can review your reflections and the experiences you had during his absence.
Hang tough, best wishes.
I agree with everyone who said to get into contract with other military wives/girlfriends but i have to say i disagree with the woman who said to send pictures and perfume because from what i heard from ex-marines is that they will taunt the soldier that gets pictures sent to them and say stuff like “these people hate you and don’t miss you” but like she said they do read the incoming and outgoing mail so dont’ send anything to intimate or something that might make them an easy target. That’s different when they are out on duty of course. Good luck.
Um… I am sending my Marine Corp husband out on his 7th deployment on Wed. He is going to Iraq for 13 months and has been home less than a year from his last deployment. I got it worse. Toughen up, these three months are going to be a drop in the bucket. Stay busy with your own life and the time will pass quickly. I am in Graduate school and often so busy the time flies by with papers and studying. If you are in college, concentrate on your studies. Concentrate on your job, your family, your hobbies. Do not sit and pine for him, it will make it worse. You will make it fine. Good luck.
He’s going to cheat on you. Let me be honest with you.. Your most likely going to cheat on him as well. If not, keep me as motivation not to – Or I told you so : ). He’ll come back a Marine but you have to be a man before entering boot camp or you’ll remain the same sweet heart. Honestly I would never Join the MARINES – they are mighty and proud. However I would never like to be overused then thrown away. But hey, Once a Marine always a Marine. They are the Best. Good Luck.
Sincerely,
invest in BGP – big girl panties – there are going to be alot of times you guys are going to be seperated – and i am not trying to be mean by saying this – but you have to be able to do things on your own and not just sit around feeling sad and sorry….. since you guys arent married once he gets to his duty station you still wont be living with him or anything much less he might get deployed, being a military spouse/girlfriend means that you will have to dela with being seperated and doing things on your own.. proabably things you will never think you can ….. but it will get better volunteer or get a hobby to occupy your time and write him plenty of letters… good luck
There are groups that you join throughACS. i work for the miliatry and we see this a lot. You may want to take a class or start planning your wedding so that when he gets his duty station you can go. Because if you guys are not married you will not be able to live with him. Good luck to you
Aww. I feel bad for you. I can only imagine how you feel. He will be ok. What is his name? I will pray for him. I will pray that God keeps a hedge of safety around him at all times. You will be ok.
you ned to find as many men to get with as you can in the three months. Also I am sorry he decided to join the marines.
My condolences to you. I hope he returns home safely.
Start a project to keep him cheered up. Send him a little something every day. It will make you both happy.
Your best bet is to stay busy. Start a new hobby, volunteer your time, work, go to school. Write him letters often.
the hardest job in the Marines is being a girlfriend or wife of one….SEMPER FI
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Im so sorry.
stay close to your friends and family they will be there to help you threw this
he will come back better looking. jsut remember that
it will get better after the first few weeks
i will be your new boyfriend if that’s what you need help with