I’m 18. I love my ex-boyfriend a lot. but from what he said he doesn’t love me, he “thought he did” is what he told me. I spoke with him and he said that he left me becuase I am selfish for not giving my baby to adoption, and now he wants to be in the delivery room and be on the birth cirtificate. I don’t know what to do. I still really love him but he treats me pretty mean and then tells me he wants to be on friendly terms with me. I still want a relationship with him. what should I do? should I keep going after him? I am so confused!
wow that is a very tough situation but I would say just move on
the only relationship you should have with him is as the father to the child that is coming, your kid is not at fault for what happen before he was born, so don’t take away his right to have a father-son relationship, and absolutely you ex needs to pay for child support and be responsible about it.
You have to keep going. Think about your child. i would let the child see there dad but if this attitude shows up around her you may have to ask him to leave. The early year of a child are very crucial. But no matter what happens show your child that you love them no matter what. Your being forced to grow up now. It’s no longer just you, it’s the baby to.
Don’t keep on chasing after him. If he does really love you like he says he does, he’ll come back to you. You’ve already dealt with a lot. What’s right for you, may be not right for him. Step up to him and tell him no for once, set him in his place. He is technically the father of the baby, but if he hasn’t helped you out at all he doesn’t deserve to be on the birth certificate. You are the one carrying the baby, you are the one that has legal responsibility for it, not him.
RUN for the nearest Exit. Believe me.at sometime you’re going to get dumped. He’s not really interested in you or the baby. Don’t belittle yourself by chasing after him. If you can afford to take care of the baby and yourself than keep the baby. If you can’t then put put him/her up for adoption. You’ll make two people who can’t have a baby the proud parents of one. You’ll never forget this one, but you can have more with someone who really appreciates you. And who knows, maybe this little person will come looking for you someday. The records aren’t sealed anymore.
If I was you I wouldn’t go after him because at the begining he left you because you were pregnant. That shows that he wasnt mature enough to be a father yet have a serious relationship and settle down. No women deserves to be left by a jerk just because she came up pregnant, because if he really thought he loved you he would have stayed with you and helped you through the pregnancy, not leave you out there all alone. It would be also his responsibility for the chiild as much as it would be yours because both of you would be the parents so, therefore, he should have been a mature adult and stayed with you. You can find someone way better that will treat you right and will REALLY love you. I hope this helps you in some way or another.
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just let him go and move on.if he wants to be part of the kids life let him but as for you guys if it is meant to be it will sort itself out but for now just be friends
Do not go after him. Your ex-boyfriend has no respect for you. He is not worth being in a relationship with. Just take care of yourself and your baby. Make sure you get him for child support.
You are very young and have a lot to think about. You do not want to share a life with someone who doesn’t love you the way he should. He doesn’t know what he wants. He is probably excited and scared about having produced a baby. He wants to be on the birth certificate and be in the delivery room but, doesn’t want the responsibility that comes with being a father. He wants you to give up your child and he is not nice to you. I think you need to think of what is best for your child and yourself. Don’t go after someone who shows so little interest in you; but, if you are going to keep the child; go after the wallet. You will need every bit of money that the courts will tell him he must pay. It won’t be near enough to raise your baby but you need to have it and are entitled to his providing money to raise the child. It will be a struggle to be a single Mom but, you can do it and you will be proud of yourself if you do all you can to be the best Mom that you can be. Love your child and teach him to love himself. It takes courage to handle all of this responsibility but, you don’t have a choice if you are going to keep the baby. Will your parents help you? Can you live with them? Get the best education you can get so that when you have to work, you can make more money to provide for the two of you. This man doesn’t love you enough. I promise you that you will one day find someone who will love and cherish you and you will be much happier waiting for that special someone than having to drag this boy into a relationship he is not ready to handle. He must pay for his child by law. Don’t shortchange you and the baby by settling for less than happiness with a man who has no intention of being there for you. Good luck, honey. My prayers are with you and your baby.
I was in a situation like this ,and the best advice i can tell is to move on because it will only be a waste of your time in the long run.If you really love him then let him go and eventually when he see you’ve moved on he’ll be back,because no guy want another guy raising their child