Question by Megan: Found a condom in his wallet is he cheating? ?
Ok well it’s Jan.13,2011… back in June I had one of those gut feelings that my boyfriend was talking to other girls behind my back, so I checked his computer and found messages between him and 2 girls one being his ex ( the girl he “left” for me) he was asking them for xxx pics so he could jerk off and delete after. And he was asking them to meet to have sex, when they told him to get it from his girlfriend(me) he told them that he does but wants something he hasn’t had in a while. I asked him about it and it took about two hours of him denying it before he admitted to it. And swore he would never do it again. So ever since then I have no trust for him and I look through everything every chance I get. I do love him and I do want to be with him but I’m afraid he is cheating on me. Our sex life has decrease dramatically the past few months. Ive been working night shift so we havent had sex in a few weeks, and last night I went in his wallet and found a condom with exp date 2-2015..and it was never there, it’s very recent. We don’t use condoms at all, never have and never will… Does this mean he really is cheating on me?? Should I ask him about it or wait to see if it disappears? His family tells me how much of a horn dog he was before we got toegther and that if he’s not giving it to me then he’s getting it somewhere else!! I’m so hurt & confused what should I do?? PLEASE HELP ME!!!
——desperate wifey!
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Answer by Olivia J
He’s cheating on you because you’re letting him. I’m sorry – but there wasn’t really a consequence last time, so why wouldn’t he do it again?
You deserve to be with someone who respects you.
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He’s Cheating or intending to, You should have left him when you found the convo’s he’d been having. Don’t be so silly. Get away from him and find a decent guy, theres plenty out there!
Youre not hurt and confused, but pathetic. You helped him cheat when he was with another and now find out he does the same to you.
Dump his *** and get a real man, before you start reproducing.
I think he’s cheating. Get rid of the drama for yourself and get a new guy
Yep, dump his ass sooner than later.
as much as your probably not going to listen to this advise… you need to end it
he clearly has no respect for you
do you want to be with someone who enjoys finding it from someone else behind your back? and contantly having to check his stuff to make sur ehes being good
i wouldnt advise staying with him. theres 100s of guys out there that would treat you good
and yes if he put a condom in his wallet it may not mean he HAS cheated but it certainly means hes putting it there for when the opportunity arises.
get rid of him
Yeah… just remember ‘ he cheated on his last gf to be with you ‘. I’m sure of it!
Hahaha.. he’s playing you.. and good luck to him!
He deserves better!
Most guys (guys that I know anyway) tend to carry condoms around for good luck or for just in case. Considering the family has called him a “horn dog” and there seems to be an incident with an ex, it’s not unreasonable to be suspicious. Stop having unprotected sex with him and confront him. Also try to remember that one can have all the love in the world but a marriage without trust is doomed.
Just because you found a condom in his wallet does not mean he is cheating. He is practicing safe sex when he masturbates. LOL
He’s definitely cheating. You deserve better.
You know the truth, now what are you going to do about it he is obviously disrespecting you by cheating on you, then insulting your intelligence by lying to you and putting condoms in his wallet. what more do you need to prove he has no respect for you and that you should leave him. He does not deserve you. Move on and find a man that will respect you and care about your feelings. If I were you, there would be no sex anymore, because condom or not, HIV does kill and condoms do break! You deserve better.
no he wants to fuck you!
If you are going to have sex with him again … maybe you SHOULD use a condom next time.
Yes, he’s cheating.
You don’t use condoms, but he has one in his wallet. I doubt he’s just got a condom in his wallet to look at. He’s clearly going to use it!
Dump him.
Seriously now! What other evidences do you need in order to realize that he IS cheating on you! Get him in bed with someone else?! I wish i could help you!.Although the only way i could help you would be for me to be able to take instantly away from you the pain of separation. Because THAT’S WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO if you love and respect yourself. He clearly shows not interest in you as a woman , or as a person. He is a liar and a cheater. Is that what you want/need/deserve in your life? I know it hurts to leave him. BUT this pain will eventually fade . His character won’t !
I don’t know if this makes you feel better , but everything happens for a good cause. You didn’t find the photos and condom for no reason if you were not meant to leave him. I m sure life / God hold something special for you. Someone you really deserve . Someone who really deserves you!
yet you continue to have sex with him – AND you want him to KNOCK YOU UP.
jesus h. tap dancing christ.
STOP HAVING BABIES you goddamned retard
I suppose what you really need to know is whether your suspicions are unfounded or not. Now there is a piece of software that has been used in businesses to catch crooks and by people to catch cheating partners or lovers and also to track your childs activities. All you need to do is download the software onto their mobile phone where it will be completely undetectable and it will track text messages and calls and you can access them from any PC in the world with a log on id to the website. It’s not expensive and can either confirm or allay your suspicions.