Question by L.o.v.e: Was I wrong or was my boyfriend totally overreacting?
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My boyfriend and I were studying in a locked classroom, so we could not be bothered by anyone, I was working on the computer while he was on another computer across the room from me. It’s finals so class has been cancelled however there was still some uninformed students (dummies) who kept showing up. One of them was my guy friend that I sometimes talk to in that class. He knocks on the door b/c it has a window and he see’s me and asked me to open it. So I crack it open and tell him class is canceled for finals till next week and that I am just making up for lost work right now on the computer with my boyfriend and he starts talking with me going into convo when I needed to get back to work but he kept standing there so I just invited him in, we keep talking, he see’s my boyfriend and he sits right by me and keeps talking about the finals and his classes and what I’m doing and he wants to hear my finals project. I hear a loud typing noise and turn my head and see my boyfriend typing aggressively on the keyboard like he was mad or something. This guy I will call “Max” keeps talking with me till finally he finds out he can’t open the file on the computer next to me so he goes to another one. That’s when my boyfriend gets up and grabs his stuff looks at me, gives me two thumbs up and walks out of the room to go to another study room. This guy “Max” see’s I’m frustrated because I don’t know what the h just happened and he asked “Your boyfriend just left??” he smiles like okay. Then he immediately comes to sit by me and talk more. I tell him I need to go in 5 more minutes as soon as I finish up and save everything and meanwhile I’m texting and calling my boyfriend but he won’t pick up, until finally he responds and says it’s ok. I tell him I’m just saving my project then I will come to where he is at. Max keeps talking with me, about his religion, his band, class, him moving out. Finally I finish and save and tell him to just lock everything when he’s done and he says he’ll walk out with me. My boyfriend text me telling me he’s waiting for me outside the building. (It’s night, he said he wanted to take me home since I carpooled that day) I look outside I don’t see him anywhere I’m calling him and Max is still talking to me first going down the stairs then when he see’s I can’t find my boyfriend he goes back up and keeps talking then he says bye and have a nice night. Just as I’m about to go back inside because it’s cold out, my boyfriend walks up from the grassy area of the school and ask where I’m going. He’s walking ahead of me the whole time not side by side, super quiet and a pissed look on his face. Before he drops me off he ask if I have feelings for Max and what we were talking about and why he walked back up the stairs, I don’t know what the heck is going on with him. Was I wrong for talking with Max or is my boyfriend overreacting? When I told him everything he said he didn’t care what that guy thought, he didn’t care if he looked insecure in front of him all he cares is how he looks in front of me and how I feel, he was REALLY upset.
oh yeah and I forgot to ask. Does this guy Max seem like he likes me or is he just being friends?
I have had a lot of guy friends before and I just can’t tell!! If he does I will immediately stop talking with him.
college students age
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Answer by Racer
I think he was just being a little over jealous … and even a little immature about the whole thing. Max was just yapping up a storm with you… nothing else.
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ok well “max” is obviously interested. Your boyfriend over reacted, and your allowed to talk to other guys. He is feeling insecure, just reassure him that he is the one you like, not max and that max is simply a friend. Hope it work out.
I think Max is just wanting to be friends. As for your boyfriend, he was just jealous as many boys are when they feel threatened. Reassure him that you dont have feelings for Max and everything will be fine.
And dont feel quilty about being friends with Max, if you let your boyfriend think he has any control over who you are friends with you are opening yourself up for disaster. Hope it all works out!
Max is either a complete moron who doesn’t seem to know a conversation, or he likes you.
Your boyfriend over reacted because its not your fault Max kept talking to you at the same time you should of told Max to stop talking because you and your boyfriend were studying for finals, there’s nothing wrong with guy friends and your boyfriend sounds like he understands that and is just threatened that this guy is over stepping the mark. You did nothing wrong to make your boyfriend jealous, I just think you could of stuck with the whole idea of locking yourselves away to study more out of allowing you both to concentrate.
i think he could tell that maybe max is just a jerk and obviously max doesn’t care about hurting your relationship with your boyfriend. stay with your boyfriend
Sounds like overreacting to me but, that said, Max doesn’t sound like the kind of person I would want my girlfriend to be good friends with. He kinda sounds annoying, and I’m sorry if I am wrong!
I don’t see a big problem, he should believe you to be loving him. How old are you guys?
hm… i dont really want to break up your friendship with max its just that he seems to like you alot and he seems like he wants to break you and your boyfriend up :S
and well… your suppose to be catching up and helping your bf with come stuff for you finals and u sorta ditched him to talk to max i can see why his pissed and i can see that you didnt mean it its just seems like max is trying to break you 2 up. its not your fault you didnt do it on purpose and your bf wasnt really overrating i mean if my bf started talking to a girl when his suppose to be helping me i guess i would get pissed.
hope this helps
your boyfriend is acting like a total immature ass, and if you plan on staying with him you need to let him know that this kind of behavior WILL NOT be tolerated. there is nothing wrong with you having guy friends, as long as boundaries are respected. considering you were talking to this guy IN FRONT OF YOUR BOYFRIEND, and not trying to hide anything from him, i’d say any boundaries that were crossed were crossed by him. he needs to get over himself.
max may or may not like you, he’s not sending off any obvious signals so i wouldn’t worry about it. your boyfriend was just being incredibly disrespectful. don’t ever give up your friends for a boyfriend; they’ll probably be around a lot longer.
well it took me quite a time to read it ..but anyway…..well i admit im no expert at relationships but what i feel after reading little story is that maybe your boyfreind was overreacting …i mean hes probably just jealous..so you need to be carefull about what you say to him on the matter so as not to make him more insecure…..you would know if hes too possesive …but this just seems like a case of simple jealousy…and ya it seems the guy max likes you …because he didnt stop even when he realized he had upset your boyfreind …or maybe he was just dummie who didnt understand right waay and was too chivalrous too let you walk back alone at night ….well hes your friend ..you know him better ,,if hes not generally as dumb as he acted that day then he probably does like you…but dont just stop talking to him..ask him what he feels about you …and make it clear to him that you r loyal to your boyfriend…….and as the old sayin goes …”kiss and make up” (with ur bf) lol
Likes you.. btw that’s so mean.. (ur bf)