Question by adlowerflower: Why a long distance relationship is not working .. at all?
I have been going out with my boyfriend for almost three years now .. but about 4 months ago i went away to school. In my hometown there is a university, however, i decided that it just was not for me and i went to the next closest school (only an hour away), which i thought was perfect for me. However, my boyfriend is a year older then me and went to the school in our hometown, becuase he could not pay to go away (but apparently becuase he is dating me he chose to stay home?) .. anyways, i’m away but i literally come home every weekend to be with him, and yet he believes i completely “left” him and i get to be put on a guilt trip every time i say i want to stay up at my school. I really like him, hes not like any typical guy, but this had started to make me think,is it wrong to want to do better in school, then to be with my boyfriend? i’m an honor role student and i feel my grades slipping with all the time i have to spend arguing with him. Am i wrong,Is this just not going to work?
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Answer by hawtdiggitydam
honestly, if its coming between your grade (which you have for life and they basically chose what your future is) you should really talk to him about calming down a bit, plus if he really loved you that much or cared for you, he shouldn’t make you go through the guilt trip at all and rather share the little time you guys have over the weekend to make memories and whatnot.
hope this helps, but mostly long distance relationships don’t work.. i’ve been through it
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you already know the answer for your question. your career is more important than him. you should continue you education maybe his no the one for you as you thought he was. move on you will find someone later in your life.
you’re doing almost everything u can if he can’t deal he needs 2 get a life… concentrate on ur grades..
I’ve been in a long distance relationship for 4 years now and i know how hard it can get. One hour away is not very far at all so let your bf know that there are couples such as myself who dont get to see eachother as often. My bf lives in Germany and i live in California, we see eachother one month out of the year. They are hard work and take a lot of communication, trust and honesty. Tell your bf how is guilt trips are affecting you and that you are sorry that you can’t always be next to him but that right now education is important. My bf and i would love to be together right now but we can’t we still have about 2 or 3 more years of college to go. If you are getting tired of going home every weekend then why doesn’t he go to see you or you two meet halfway? It takes two people to make the relationship work. Webcams might be a good idea for you that way you can see eachother online when you can’t be together. I just want you to know that with distance a relationship can still work. Really sit down and talk to him and just tell him to let everything that is bothering him out so you can talk about it, otherwise he will bottle it up and you will continue to argue. Email me if you have more questions, i hope i was able to answer your question. Good luck