Question by Teeny Beeny: Do you believe this is true: “Once a cheater, always a cheater?”?
I cheated on my husband long before we were married. But know I am really feeling the urge to cheat again. Is it true that once you’re a cheater, you’re always a cheater? Because if so, I am just going to give in and accept that I can’t fight this. Should I just accept that I’ll always be a cheater?
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Answer by IslandArtiste
As good an excuse as any other to do what you want to do!
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it’s a crutch for those who’ve cheated.
and no it’s not true..for me..i’ve cheated and i wouldn’t do it again because i already regret it.
I think, once a cheater, it will happen again if the circumstances don’t change. Finding out why people cheat is really important – address the underlying needs and it won’t happen again. Fail to do that, and you’re just starting the cycle over. I’ve been a (male) cheater, and cheating is futile. You have everything at home that you could ever find with another partner — it would be a much better use of your time (and mine) to try to fix things up honestly with your spouse rather than go looking for a flawed dream. Good luck to you and to your husband.
It’s like you’re caving in and accepting it’s not your fault. It’s ALL your fault. You have to power to choose who you hang around, and if you really care about your husband the urge to cheat will be overwhelmed by the urge to protect him.
Why cheat and make everything difficult? Just get a divorce. Im sure he deserves better
if you sent as much time with your husband as you do on the internet and on this site…your relationship would be so much better and you would feel closer to him emothional. i know this from esperiance and a lot of fuck ups. put your energy into your man please!!!!!
I’ve heard many excuses, this has to be the lamest. You cheated the first time, because you chose to. Because you are weak, and have no self control. You will cheat again, because you are weak and have no self control. And you will continue to cheat for the rest of your life, because of this very reason. Once you grow a conscious and a heart, you will stop and then that statement won’t be true anymore. I think the saying should be “Once I choose to cheat, I will choose to cheat again’.
No you make your own decisions if you want to use that as your excuse you can. If you are truly happy you don’t
You’ve already accepted the fact that your’e always going to be a cheater, or you wouldn’t have asked this question.
Until you decide that you will be completely committed to a relationship then that’s just how you’re going to be but what you need to do is make sure that you’re okay with the consequences of your actiosn because eventually the truth WILL come out.
You should have never gotten married if you were not prepared for the sanctity of marriage and all that comes with a marriage. If you still want to sleep around then don’t get married.
I believe a problem in a relationship leads some to cheat. If that problem is fixed, the other person will stop cheating.
(Though some cheaters are slime who would cheat on any woman.)
no i’ve known people who cheated in the ’80′s and never did again,
it’s all personal choice.
Not true, God can help, pray and go get help from some quiet trustworthy church women at a good church! You have a addiction that can be broken! Fight this! It’s an addiction like cigarettes, some break it sooner, some later, say out loud “I AM NOT A CHEATER, I ONLY WANT MY HUSBAND! speak those things over yourself, let cheating become nasty because it is! It is very low class, studies even show people that have sex outside of marriage have low intelligence and risk diseases! So learn self control, love your husband, love yourself and love only each other!
I don’t believe once a cheater always a cheater even tho I was married to an alcoholic that cheated on me so many times I lost count! I believe there are those who cheat & realize they made a big mistake, are sorry for it & don’t cheat again. And, YES, you CAN “fight it” IF you really want to. How would you feel if he cheated on you? Would it bother you or not?! If you’re just going to keep cheating on your husband, do him a favor, tell him & tell him to go find a decent wife who cares enuf about him & herself to restrain herself from doing wrong. If this is the way you’re going to be, you don’t belong married to anyone. This is just not a bit fair to your spouse & you know it. If you’re not happy with him, let him go then. There has to be a problem somewhere that makes you feel like you want to cheat on him. Either work on it & fix it or let the poor guy go & find someone decent, after all fair is fair…good luck to you…:)
I believe if you are a cheater, why did you get married? Stay single, If you can’t fight you need psychological help. It’s not fair to hurt or give a disease to your partner or other people because you can no control it. People who like to cheat should get together and cheat each other, but don’t hurt other people. What goes around come around.
I cheated on my husband when we were still “shackin’ up”…and I feel that has no bearing on whether or not I would cheat now.
It depends on the person and the situation.
I was living with my boyfriend(whom I absolutely adored) for a couple years when he ended up addicted to online gaming, wasn’t spending time with me, and wasn’t even ready to commit. Then I ran into the option of marrying a doctor. Never have been faced with “love vs. money” quite so literally before, I tried out “money” and it was a disaster!
I came running back to my boyfriend, and luckily the separation showed my boyfriend and myself how much we loved each other. We married about 5 months later and had a beautiful baby girl 2 years after that. If nothing else had changed in that time period, I can’t say that we would be doing as good now as we are. When my daughter was about 2 years old, I wanted to start taking HER to church, and I did. In the meantime, I started learning a thing or two about how to deal with people in general, and how to behave within a marriage. It has done wonders! We’re both better people now, thanks to God. And I can’t even IMAGINE thinking about cheating! I’m committed to my family, and keeping it together, and making sure that it is a happy family.
I feel that it still counts but I guess how I’ve always explained it to both myself and my husband, when all that happened, we were only dating. Today, we have been forgiven for all our sins and we are in a blessed marriage and have kept with God’s holy word since the day we got married (even before I knew what God’s word really was).
So I am proof that NO, once a cheater, you’re not ALWAYS a cheater!
You just have to grow as a person and learn from your mistake the first time.
I’ve cheated in almost all of my major relationships. Doesn’t make it right, just makes it true that once a cheater, always a cheater.
yes i do believe that
cheater!!!
so accept it
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