Or could it possibly mean they are not trustworthy them self so they assume their spouse is not. In your opinion?
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could be either of the two. I would say in most cases it comes from just being insecure about themselves.
It is more likely that the accuser is cheating and guilt is causing him/her to lash out.
It’s insecurity in my opinion.
usually the cheater is the first one to point the finger at the other person.
Insecurity would be the biggest reason, as far as the rest, that would be speculating—
I been cheated on before, and shortly afterward, was getting the whole “did you cheat on me” thing back ( in hindsight). People that cheat start to worry that they are getting cheated on…good way to find out if your spouse is messin’ around is if they start to accuse you.
depends on the person and the situation. In some cases it is insecurity, in other cases it could be something that has happened in the past creeping back up! “You can forgive, but you can’t forget!”
it’s insecure and stupid. It’s also a good way to lose a spouse.
could be either but look at thier previous behavior
if theyre normally insecure about other things and jelouse often right from the start then it probably stems from insecurity.
But if they are not normally jelouse and this is out of character for them it probably means they are cheating/ untrustworthy so they assume their partner is too
Accusations of infidelity can come from a few different places…..
1. Definitely insecurity. They think that they aren’t enough for the spouse so the spouse will need to seek comfort elsewhere. They also might have insecurity because they’ve had people cheat on them in the past and are just waiting for it to happen again.
2. Definitely paranoia. If one of the people in the relationship is doing things that aren’t right, they are going to assume the other person is as well. It’s just paranoia and how it works. And a guilty conscience.
3. The spouse might be doing things that are questionable and making it look like they are cheating.
4. They might be cheating!!!
I think it really just depends on each separate situation, don’t you?
It depends on the person. Both of those are perfectly plausible reasons, it varies from individual to individual. Me personally, I’ve had issues with that before and it was because I had been in an unloving, abusive relationship where the person cheated on me and lied so many times I got to where I never thought any guy could be trustworthy. So in my case it was pure insecurity. I had to learn that the guy I’m with now could be trusted… it’s a long and painful process that not many other guys would have been patient through.
These feelings come from insecurity caused by either thier own thoughts, experiences, observations, or irrational fears. You have to explore the reasons they have these feelings to really understand it. However, if you love them, try to help them understand why they feel this way. We all have fears… don’t you?
Yeah, it sounds like pure insecurity to me. Some people have just been burned to a point where they can’t fully trust anyone.
Or maybe, it is because the person is actually cheating. My ex used to insist he was not cheating. “How could you not trust me? You are so insecure. blah blah blah.” uh huh. When I finally confronted him with the evidence it was all out war. He is now married to someone else and cheating on her. Yes, I have actually seen it. So that’s my opinion.
it could be past experience, with a parent or bf/gf, they could have low self esteem and jealousy, but whatever the reason, it’s not good.
I wouldn’t stand with them, just because of the question “Will they ever be **** enough to trust you?????”
The answer may be yes, may be no. Maybe 10 years down the road, or after 3 kids.
But maybe not.
I agree it could go both ways … at first my husband was so insecure that I could not even go in the front hard or talk with the guys in his family … not even his dad… and I always thought oh he love me so much but he needs to realize that he does not need to be jealous…. okay so one day we went to see this weird show with his family and he was so fricken drunk he was sitting like 4 feet away from me when there was no one on our side of the table… so I kept catching him glancing over to where his sister where and they had some hoe there with them… and when we go to leave I told everyone bye and as I was walking I turned around and saw him waving good bye to his family but then suddenly stopped to give this hoe a hug goodbye… so me and him got into it big time and then I got in a agruemeargumenty brother in-law for hitting my sister in law and he told me yeah that why your man fucked that bitch….. well he denies it all the time but I really do think he did and that is why he was so insecure… because I never gave him a reason to be that way so he must have his own reasons.
It depends. Is there proof? Reasonable circumstances? My hubby cheated on me for 6 months and I confronted him more than once and he denied it until I got proof he could not deny ( I had phone bills showing her number but he would just say they were friends talking to each other), at which point he confessed. So, it depends on what is happening and what you believe.
Sometimes the best defense is a strong offense……………
I would say that where there is smoke there is fire. I imagine one partner suspects something is not right- maybe they are right ?