lets say, that your girlfriend/boyfriend has no libido and therefore no real sexual attraction to you, but you have a great personal & home financial relationship (long term relationship). Is it cheating if you acquire a mistress because your partner is either unwilling or unable to satisfy this relationship need?
Just to clarify & stop the personal judgements.. This DID happen, although I never had sex with or got a mistress, but I SERIOUSLY considered it. So Im still a faithful guy….. but we all have our limits.
yes
yes, sugar, it’s cheatin, regardless of whether u have secured approval…
uh, yeah?
yes
huh… yeah…
duhhh…
your having sex with someone else
yes it is.
YES IT IS IF YOU WANT A MISTRESS GET A DIVORCE TUFF IT OUT
yes
It’s cheating no matter how you spin it.
yes, of course…If there is no attraction, then what are you doing together? The relationship is headed for disaster especially if you have a mistress!
So are you kidding or just plain stupid??!! Yes it’s cheating. If your other doesn’t have the desire then talk to a doctor not another girlfriend. Or are you using this as a common male justification for cheating?
yes it is considered it cheating.. as long as your partner does not know what you are doing and your doing it behine his/her back.
Yes, it’s cheating. You need to talk to her about this first, to see if she’s okay with it instead of doing it behind her back. If you do this secretly, you will inevitably be discovered, which would hurt her trust in you and maybe even end your marriage/relationship.
Yes it is cheating.
What if she/he was sleeping around on you? how would
you feel
i was in your same darn shoes and my ex hubby wouldnt sleep with me for four years and i was a regular cheater and aslo it was no secret i made it known to him as much as possible. anyway my point is – its a miserable way to live … im glad im divorced now so i can live/marry/and have sex all with one person instead of having to split myself in two like that. aslo your wife will probably still hold it against you even tho she is not putting out ( just like my ex did ) and try to make u mserable…
It is cheating. However unless you have children, leave them. No one is worth being with as a friend. Leave them and keep them as a friend. No libido means you have a gay partner…lol or someone that is very sexually confused. Move on, there are ones not broken.
Yeah it’s cheating, but it’s somewhat justified. Everyone has needs, you need to make sure they’re vocalized.
Yes
Yes it is. If your having sexual relations with another woman then yeah it is. Even if she does give the thumbs up its cheating.
YES, please dont make it a triangle because of sex. If you allow her to get sexy confortable (ask her to create a scene) using her finances to create the mood for you whether it me at home or away from home
Date 2 days straight and MAKE LOVE Like it was the very firsttime
lol yes..it is! Im so lucky to have such a wonderful husband! if he ever cheated on me i would kill him:)
Yes, it’s cheating. Why are you with someone that isn’t attracted to you?
How stupid, you even have to ask. Of course it is. Figure out what is important, just sex or a loving relationship with someone. If sex is what is important to you, find someone else.
Nope – as long as you are honest and upfront with your partner and he or she okays it.
Here’s the way I define cheating – anything sexual or romantic that you do with another person that you hide from your siginificant other or know they would not approve of.
Basically, if your boyfriend/girlfriend is aware and okay with it, you’re clean.
I would suggest having this conversation with him/her about it to see where (s)he stands on the matter.
Good luck!
It is just the same, try marriage counselling, it might help. Getting a mistress is just making things complicated, instead of solving the real issue, why not also try to seek OB/GYN, they may give hormonal treatment to increase libido.And also you should be more considerate in body clock of your wife, when woman getting older, their urge for sex slow down, try more tricks before the real sex…
Yes. Cheating is definately if you are having sex with another person other than your partner. Some people would say that even seriously thinking about cheating is cheating or at least planning too. Honestly you will need to deal with your issues, both of you. I would suggest counceling. I would also suggest you talk to her about it and see if there is some compromise, even if she just … works with your libito… if you know what I mean…
Cheating starts with a thought and then acquires a plausible reason to justify the act. Sounds like that’s the stage that you are at right now. When you bring another person into an established relationship, feelings will always get hurt and the relationship will suffer. If the present relationship is not fulfilling your needs then it’s time to move on. First explain what your need from you present partner and if they would prefer to leave the relationship as is, then it’s time to move on, not complicate the existing one.
YES!!!
Although, since you’re not married, it’s not the end of the world. I would want to find out why there’s no sexual interest with your partner though. If there’s a physiological reason for it, that can be fixed usually. Talk it out with him/her, and find out what’s going on.
Best of luck to you.
Yes it is cheating!! Have you tried different things? Have you tried discussing what the issue is? For better or worse, you have to realize that when getting married all the problems that can come and go! If you need to be with someone else then you need to get a divorce it is not fair to your spouse! How would you feel if your spouse cheated on you? I hope you make the wise choice for the both of you!
Yes, it is cheating.
yes
duhhhh.. yes!!!
Ask HER that question and see what you get for an answer. She’s the one you should be talking to about it. (I would keep all sharp and throwable objects out of her reach during this conversation)
If there is no sexual attraction, then there is no real relationship outside of friendship. YOU are essentially, USING this other person to satisfy all you other needs. I think what you are doing is awful. And I think that what THEY are doing is STUPID.
If this is a “long term” relationship that has had no spark, GET OUT.
Why would you settle for less than the whole package? For that matter, why would your partner?
It’s not cheating if there was no committment to fidelity. And clearly, here, there is no commitment. However, if this person is really someone you care about, you should really let them go. Give both of you a chance to find a partner that you can have a great personal & home financial relationship with AND a great intimate life too.
Oh, and by the way, perhaps the reason she doesn’t want to sleep with you is because you HAVEN’T made a real commitment to her. She probably feels very used and unloved/unappreciated. Read this month’s Men’s Health magazine. There is a great article on the female mind….you could benefit from it!
It is ALWAYS considered cheating when a partner breaks the other partners trust by stepping outside the relationship for their own personal intimate satisfaction. When there are serious problems, it is always best to TRY and work things out – if they can’t be worked out, then LEAVE the relationship before getting involved with anyone else.
Of course its wrong. Any,Any,Anytime, you go outside the relationship looking for emotional or physical satisfaction it is wrong. Wrong and just plain selfish and painful. If you don’t like the relationship the way it is, work to change it or get out !!! I am just so tired of excuses and justifications for deliberately hurting someones soul.
Yes, it’s cheating. If your sex life is unsatisfying, then you need to end the relationship. Either that or open up a lengthy discussion about ways to resolve the issue. Cheating is not an option. It’s dishonorable and degrading to all parties involved. The more you try to rationalize it, the more you know how bad it really is. Take the high road. Fight the good fight. If this relationship has any REAL value (not financial) it will be worth attempting to salvage.
CHEATING IS CHEATING EITHER COMETE TO THE REALATIONSHIP OR MOVE ON THATS WHAT U DO IF ITS A BOYFRIIND OR GIRLFRIENDNOW IF ITS A SPOUSE HEN SORRY CHARLIE BUT YOU TOOK VOWS TIL DEATH DO WE PART TRY GOING TO GET MEDICAL HELP
If you tell your girlfriend/boyfriend that you are going to a have sexual relationship with someone else and he/she says it’s ok then no. If you do not tell this person you are in a relationship with then the answer is yes. If you aren’t happy with someone…MOVE ON!!!!
Yes it’s cheating. Many health problems can cause loss of libido, and everyone has different levels and needs. Maybe this should have been discussed early in the relationship, and you two could have come up with other ways to pleasure each other, without it being sexual. I would think your partner would feel great pain emotionally if you acquired a mistress. You might ask yourself, how you would feel if the situation was reverse, would you approve and encourage your partner to have sexual relations with someone else?
It is cheating if the other doesnt know about the mistress BUT what is a relationship without intimacy and love with out sex? a roommate. maybe you should communicate about why there is no attraction and reevaluate make sense?
Let her know how you feel. Maybe she will be ok with it. If not get a divorce.
Wow!!!! I was about to ask that myself!!! (U took away my question) I have read the responces, and I find myself in disbelief!! And, who is cheating who? I think one who is denied sex is the one being cheated!
How can one “cheat” if there isn’t any substance to call cheating? ( It is like saying you stole something without taking anything)???? Non-the-less, I vote in my favor. It is wrong, but in my book, (and the fact I haven’t had sex from the wife for months) how can one cheat if you are not denying one of the service to begin with. (OK, now I’m the one confused) Get the mistress!!!(((( The next question is.”Is she a “mistress” if you are not married?))))))
It would still be considered cheating on legal terms, i am afraid. But it also makes a good ground for divorce.
Try counseling her, see if the libido improves.
Yes it would be cheating to get a mistress whether you are in a long term relationship or marriage. Do you love your partner and if so do you want to see the relationship work out? If so, sit down and try to talk about the problem and find out why this is happening. Then if you can not resolve it on your own then try counseling. If nothing seems to work then I would say go your separate ways and find someone that can give you what you seek within a relationship.
yes it is cheating!!if you are no longer intrested in your gurl then just dont be with her anymore! you are gonna hurt her more if you cheat and then leave her, so i suggest work things out with your gurl or if not then dont be with her!! but if you really love her then you wouldnt be having these thoughts! good luck to you.
The only way it isn’t cheating is if your partner is aware and approves of it. It isn’t referred to as ‘cheating’ then, it becomes an ‘open’ relationship. Would you be ok with her seeing someone else for the same reasons?
of course its cheating. Can’t be that great of a relationship if your wanting to step out on him/her. Why aren’t you instead wondering why there is no sexual interest? Maybe its a medical reason or emotional. talk to your partner because you can bet you won’t solve a damn thing by going out of the relationship and turining to someone else this never ever works so don’t do it. that most likely will ruin the relationship. But i know that it must be tough at times not being intimate but if you don’t want to try and fix this problem then you need to end things so you can go and do what it is you desperately need! right!!!
Duh! I can’t believe you are even asking this question.
I had no libido for years and it was because of the birth of my first child and apparently it’s very common. Then my husband was an ass so that didn’t help.
Women usually experince that due to hormonal imbalances or having no intimacy with their husbands. As far as men, it is generally stress or depression, psychological.
First of all this isn’t normal so talk to your significant other about it and seek professional help.
And FYI as you get older you might experience health problems like high blood pressure, diabetes and others whose medications to control it are likely to cause impotence. I know couples due to my profession who have not had sex in over 20 years when they were in their 30′s due to health issues.
The point I am trying to make is that love and comitment are love and comitment and you have a comitment and if you truly love your guy/girl the thought would never have crossed your mind. You need release get a video and some KY and stop whinning!
Since you are not married though, it’s time you take a serious look at why you are with this person to begin with because again if the though is crossing your mind you have no business being with him/her.
in any associations there is SEX SATISFACTION and MENTAL compatibility u /2of u can have a joint agreement if ur friends sex with ‘A’ and friendship with ‘u’
Yes it’s cheating…