Question by La Vie Boheme: Do you REALLY believe “once a cheater, always a cheater”?
I’m not asking single people or happily married youngsters that still see unicorns and rainbows to answer. I want to hear from mature adults who have been in situations where the above saying isn’t always true. Please share your stories.
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Answer by SilkyღMilky
No, some actually learn from their mistakes and are accountable for their actions! People change because they want to…
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I think it is not true i use to be bad about cheating and now that i am older and found the right man for me i can sit here and say that would never cross my mind it has not crossed my mind at all i see now there is more to life than a quick fuc* and the grass is not greener
To be frank here … i dont believe in unicorns.
Yes.
I knew my first boyfriend had cheated on his x, he cheated on me so I kicked him in the… you know:P
Same with my second bf. Same destiny:P I don’t forgive or forget. -Don’t get mad, get even! – J.G Kennedy:)
Research has shown that once you have done something morally questionable or illegal, then the threshold for doing it again is much lower.
Oh, and I am 22, and in a healthy relationship:)
YES. YES…YES..
I would have a hard time trusting that person…and no, you dont have to be married to figure that out, nor do you have to be involved with someone
Absolutely false. I was a cheater on many occasions, not because it was something I wanted to do, but I was in an unhappy marriage. Cheating was very much against my nature – I did it out of an enormous need to find love and affection (not to mention sex).
Now I am in a relationship (with the last woman I cheated with) and all I see ahead is a loyal, trusting relationship with no temptation at all to cheat.
Yes, she still is. Both of them for that matter. It becomes a lifestyle for cheaters as once they get bored with one….its off to another.
No, I don’t necessarily believe that.
But I do believe that the most reliable indicator of the future is the past.
i’m a mature adult and i say its just a stupid phrase that sounds good. Everyone is different and maybe most that cheat always cheat but that’s not everyone. I read your answer you gave on the question of what would you do the first day you meet a person i liked your answer.
It really depends on the person, and why they cheated. If a guy/girl has cheated on every partner they’ve had, they probably have commitment issues of there own that are going to drive them to it no matter what, and they will cheat on you. If they cheated with only one previous partner, there were probably extenuating circumstances. Saying “once a cheater, always a cheater” is a little to cut and dried.
My first wife and second both cheated on me. The first one did it with 2 more people after I forgave her for the first time that I knew about. I have no idea how many times it happened. The second was just as bad.
So if they cheat once and are forgiven they will do it again and again because they think you are stupid and will always take them back.
absoeffinglutely
I think there are two different kinds of cheaters… there are the situational cheaters (relationship has hit the rocks, alone in a new city, a mistake made while drunk, etc.) and I think they can truly be sorry and not do it again. Then there are the serial cheaters who do it seeking some sort of power or some twisted kind of assurance that they matter — those are the ones who will always be cheaters. I think the ratio is somewhere in the 70/30 range (70 being good people who made a mistake, 30 being sociopaths).
I was with my ex for a long time (from age 15 to age 27). He pretty much just took me for granted and ignored me unless he wanted something from me. He was only working part time and lost his driver’s license. I felt like a housekeeper/ATM/personal taxi driver. I tried talking to him, but it didn’t work. I got depressed and lonely and I fell out of love with him. I ended up falling for a coworker/friend. I started spending all of my time with him and really started to feel alive/appreciated for the first time in years. I began sleeping with him regularly (I hadn’t had sex with my husband for 5 months at this point). I don’t regret my decision at all. I left my husband and divorced him. I’m still with the same guy almost 2 years later and would never even consider cheating on him.
Absolutely.
In the more than forty years I’ve been watching, every philanderer I’ve ever known messed up their relationship because they cheated. Over and over again, it didn’t matter that they had a good thing going; they ALWAYS had to do something to screw it up. And none of them ever stopped.
And it was never their fault to hear them; there was always something wrong in their relationship that they HAD to step out on their spouse.
None of the cheaters ever considered that THEY were the only common factor.