by Malingering

Question by Gon: Girlfriend cheats on me during her vacation, What should i do?
Please read a bit, i know this is really long but if you could read it’d be much obliged.

Background info: Both around 18, graduated, been friends 2 – 3 years, been going out about a month. She went away for a week to vacation spot with people from school, a graduate vacation sort of thing.

She got back about 3-4 days ago, and i went to her place for her graduation party about 2 days ago. I was first one there, and even though we’ve been going out, she didn’t seem all that excited that i had just showed up (i had told her that i wouldn’t be able to make it, would be out of town), but i had told a friend of ours i would be around here about that time so i guess she found out. Anyway, family and friends come, have a good time, spend 7 hours there, and i’m like last one to leave at night, with 2 of her girl friends.

Next day, a friend of mine from school (not good friend but we hang out occasionally), he calls me up and says that he made out with my girlfriend over the break. I think he is joking cus people do that to me, i’m a nice guy, never get mad at stuff, and he’s all like “yeah, i’m sorry man but i made out with *blank*”. So he tells me i should call up my GF and i do (had to talk to her bout something anyway). I ask her if my friend was with her right now because i thought he might be getting some kind of kick from seeing her reaction, and when she says no, i tell her the joke he was trying to tell me.

…She answers with “No i didn’t do anything like that (sex, asked if she made out or slept with him or something), he kissed me and i kissed him back, i didn’t really wanna do this over the phone, i’m coming over tonight ok?”

I was having a movie thing that night with friends and she had planned on working but now she was planning on coming over after work to talk / watch. But yeah… not a joke…

Even though i worried about her and thought of stuff like this while she was gone, i really didn’t think she would, and now that i find out about this, i honestly don’t know what to think anymore. I still can’t get over that i love her, but things like “Why didn’t she tell me the previous night, like tell me to wait while her friends left?” or “Why she did it in the first place, kiss BACK that is?”. I admit i wasn’t fully open with our relationship so i don’t blame the friend, he apologized and said he hadn’t known, i get that. But her… i know we had fun together, she introduced me to her parents and family before then, i just don’t know how you can throw all that away with one kiss, and yet i’m wondering if i should forgive something like this?

Please help, i’d really appreciate some advice. I’m not the kind of person that would go behind her back and do the same thing, i don’t wanna.
Probably why it’s so big; we’ve never kissed. She did to me once or twice on the cheek, but that was first for her i think…

Best answer:

Answer by littlebaby1221212121
I think you should tell her dont want her doin that cause you consider that as cheating – but y’all only been going out a month – calm down, she didnt sleep with him or anything, and she owned up to it–if you’ve never kissed then maybe shes not that into you in the boyfriend girlfriend way – also women mostly like people to know about their relationships, cause they like everyone to know!! So she could have been mad that you didn’t tell your friend, that you were going out.. Its not a Big thing, but if the relationship isnt there, then you should break it off, but not over something like this – look at it and see if the relationship is going to work and if you can trust her … Hope this helps!!! (best answer?)

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