Question by bugandbop: Is it okay as a single person to befriend someone’s boyfriend or girlfriend?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months. We have a fantastic relationship. He recently moved to Ohio and his neighbor came over to ask for help because she had a bat in her place. He gave her his number as well as his roommates “in case of emergency”. The lights in their building went out – she called Saturday. The roommate invited her over for the football game last night (I was still there) and coincidentally, after she saw they both had boyfriends, left. I originally told him that an exchange wasn’t necessary with him, as he is dating someone and she was playing “damsel in distress” that she should’ve called the landlord to get rid of the bat… Now, I am not a jealous person on a normal basis… he goes out, I don’t ask with whom, I don’t call while he’s out and I always wait for him to call me, but he’s naive and not that experienced with relationships. I told him that out of respect I don’t go talking to people that would likely be interested in me, that relationships are complicated and difficult enough sometimes without allowing interference. Granted, if you allow it, it’s your own fault, but, again, he’s very naive. He said “she didn’t know anyone, that’s why she left”. UM, NO. There were 20 other people there, at least 4 being actually single guys. She left because she thought THEY were single. MY opinion. Messing with fire, or am I overreacting? Please, don’t be rude, I’m not bashing my boyfriend, I sincerely care, I’m just looking for input because if I’m wrong and he should be OK to be friends with the hot neighbor and be at her call for emergencies, so be it. I will succomb to the fact that I overreacted, but I respectfully don’t talk to my ex’s that still want to talk, I don’t go out or talk to ppl that are good looking and interested in me to avoid any temptation, especially when I am happy. Is he naive or am I trying to counteract who knows what?

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Answer by SaTAnS_REjEcT
That is a good question. i was in a similar situation with my girlfriend when we started dating. She also is very naive and doesn’t realize when men are trying to hit on her. I just inform her and ask her if she would be ok with me doing the same thing. I pointed out the reasons why I felt the guy was just trying to get in her pants. You really can’t go too far into it. No person is stupid enough to not realize at some point in time when another is flirting. Tell him how you feel. If he doesn’t respect your request or at least try then You might consider taking a step back. If you really care about him, talk to him. If not, leave him. Or you can play games and do the same.

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