Question by J: Resisting sex and temptation?
I’ll try to make this quick, I am 24 currently and I’ve never had sex. Its a little bit of both religion and me not trying hard enough. If I ever like a girl, I try the bare minimum to get her, and when it fails, I chalk it off as waiting off till marriage. I’ve had one encounter where I made out with a girl for about an hour max, and then we didn’t speak again, but never sex.
It’s completely gotten out of control in my head. My parents said that after I become a full fledged doctor (typical desi) my parents are going to help me get married. I have gotten a lot of rishtas and stuff but its all from women in Pakistan and I believe that I would never be happy with a girl not from the U.S, so I have to wait, not sure for what, I guess for my parents to find me a nice girl from here.
When I lived in the city, I had it planned out that eventually I’ll find someone in a MSA or something, since there were tons and tons of good muslim girls left and right. Ever since I moved, there are hardly ANY muslims here, only white girls,
Look, my point is that my sexual frustration has gotten out of control and I don’t know what to do.
I think pre-marital sex in Islam is forbidden because by age 18-20 guys should be married and have no problem keeping their sexual urges in till then, but for some reason, a lot of desi families want their kid married after school and **** which is like age 28/29/30
What can I do? Its affecting my mind state, I look at good looking girls and I start loosing control. Women pop up in my head during salah and such and its very bad and I can’t get it out of my head.
If I really wanted sex, its not that hard, but every year I keep saying, “only a while longer left”
Its harder when the muslim friends who were influences on me to avoid this at one point, actually have girlfriends and such and are having sex all the time.
Game – Then get lost.
Best answer:
Answer by jihad_rousan
hahah number one I know how you feel
number two don’t get involved with msas, they’re fake
number three don’t marry someone from here, trust your parents man
number 4, get married now! School is not a blockade to marriage
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Oh have some sex already. Or get married. Plenty of married people study to become doctors. Its not impossible. Amazing you can take people lives in your hand, but you cant pick your own wife…isnt something wrong with that in your mind?
You made out with some girl and now you’re expecting to marry a nice muslim girl….
Typical.
dont worry about sex..you will never come close to marriage Jihad ROUSAM
u are a woman beater…nobody likes you, youre a parasite.
Sex is natural and no religion should tell you otherwise.
For some reason, I can’t find a question in there.
Anyways, have a good day. Salam.
Aslam-o-Alikum,
How are you brother? Wow…I knew a brother who told me almost the same exact problem. He told me that he used to pray regularly, but as he grew he became less religious and got more focused on his lusts…I will only tell you what I told him, please don’t forget to pray and you know having relationship with a girl is Haram unless she is your wife…You committed a huge sin, may Allah forgive you and forgive all of us and guide us and help us fight with our lusts and with Haram…Ameen
I hope I helped
Fasting is very good in controlling the urge. But still we need the resolve to avoid mixing with opposite freely. Marriage is the only solution; study could follow in tandem with marriage life.