He brought out the worst in me and I want to start over. I just don’t know how. I am afraid to get a job because I don’t want to lose it. I am afraid to find a home…never really had one. I don’t trust anyone including myself. How do you start over when you don’t know where to begin or where to go?
First thing you have to do – get a job – you need it and because you need it … you’ll do whatever it takes to keep it. Good luck!
he left you almost 2 years ago?! you should be back on yr feet. get help. get counseling.. something.. hopefully you have no children to worry about.
Baby steps. Get a job, a place to live, and think about what YOU want to do with YOUR life. He is no longer a part of it. You are scared, but it’s going to be okay. It is a growing process, and you will make it! GL!
Well you either have to live NOWHERE or you can attempt to get over the fear and get a job! its better to have 75 jobs in 5 years then to not have had one! Healing is a slow process and it does take time…day by day…and the more you step out of your comfort zone the more easier it will be. just trust in God and pray!! and i will pray for you…no one can help you if you dont help yourself first!! Good luck
Don’t be afraid of getting a job– having a job and losing it is better than never getting that job in the first place! Don’t let your fear hold you back on that.
That seems like the first step to do to start over. Next, start looking for a place to live when you have some money to afford to live somewhere.
You will find a job! Don’t worry about losing it, just get it!
You will need to trust someone, or you will waste away and never become productive. Are you still living the worst life you can or have you made any changes that are for the better? Do you not have any family anywhere ? I don’t know where you live , but most major cities have Rescue Missions.That would be a good start.
Lady, what is wrong with you? Are you going to let that bas@@@ win with your life…even when he is not around!!! I survived..I survived living with a Monster for almost 20 years….He left his family, the church and people that loved and trusted him..to move in with a Hooker. I was 44 years old with 2 teenage daughters….When he refused to come home, I filed the divorce 4 months later…I Survived!! I got a place to live..got a job and got my but in school..Now, I have 8 grandchildren and I struggle everday…but it is MY struggle. Everybody falls on hard times..but you have to Learn to build a new life..stop feeling sorry for yourself and STOP crying…go to my blog http://www.swordofthespirit123.wordpress.com
Number one, I would seek out a shelter for abused women. Many have access to classes that prepare you for the job market, counselors that will work with you on the trust issues. You may qualify for assistance in finding a home run by the state. The shelter will be able to help you with that as well. Its scary starting over. But you can do this. Don’t second guess yourself, doubt yourself or tell yourself its not possible. Scared won’t feed you, cloth you, house you or teach you new skills. This is when you find out what you are made of, what you can do, that will make you stronger emotionally. If need be, go to the police station and tell them you want to find a shelter for abused, homeless women. They will guide you. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Hun, go for it, your new life is waiting for you.
Two year, no planning ?
Take small steps, find a job, enhance your qualification. this will help you to regain your self confidence.
You have to trust somebody, life is like that sweet and sour.Freinds who are motivating on net are good as you dont have any commitment.
Just do it there are no other solutions. You will get everything once you have a job.
best of luck.
sanjeev
Firstly, look into any local women’s shelters which can offer you accommodation. It sounds like you may have some severe self-esteem issues which need dealing with. You have had 2 years to sort your life out. It’s time to start now. Forget your ex, and look towards your future. If you want a job, look for something that is not too demanding, say, on a casual basis or something.
Good luck
He left almost 2 years ago!! Don’t homeless people have better things to do then be on a computer( btw whose computer are u on??). Start by looking for a job you have nothing to lose by having a job..
You start by building one thing at a time. You were a child before and you played with play doh. You progressed and you learned to tell time. You are capable of doing much more than you think, simply becuase you have the drive to do it and you have the ability to do it. Most of your problem is you don’t believe you can do it. You can do it. I am going to college right now and I didn’t believe I could do it, but I am doing it, and I am passing! Your success is not based on that man, it is based on your efforts to try. So go for it.
Look at it this way, The only way to go is up. You have a clean slate and you get to write anything you want for your life . You have nothing, and i don’t mean that in a bad way . It could be worse you could be one of these people who woke up one day and there $800,000 house is worth $250,000 and you owe the rest. Also at the same time you lost 3/4 of your money on the stock market. I think once you make the first step the rest will come easy. I hope this helps . Also i hope you get my point that everyone goes through something but it’s how we handle ourselves that counts. Hold your head high and charge ahead, You’ll see. It will be fine.