my husband left for basic training,he gets to come home for two days only.what should i do,he tell’s me that he is scared to go over-sea’s.how do i assure hi, that everything will be alright.
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lol holy cow, i am never surprised by the type of people on YA…so your awesome husband joins the military, then tells you he is scared to go overseas…come on, tell him to grow a pair. You obviously sound like a self respecting individual, maybe you should tell your husband to act more like a man and less like a child.
Well Tinker I think good two way communication and empathy are two things that can help both of you and your relationship to survive the stressors and challenges that it will undergo over the next several years because of this. Do some reading on this on the internet as well as post traumatic stress syndrome. I also would encourage you to become familiar with some of the on base organizations like the Chaplin’s office, the support groups for wives of active duty that you will find exist and also the mental health people on base. There are also some groups on the internet and I would encourage you to explore them as well. Most or all of them will give you some good ideas and help educate you about some of the changes that your relationship is going to undergo and some of the challenges that it will face. You have heard the old adage that behind every good man there is a good women. That is so much more true in the military than anywhere else. Armed with some of these things you and your husband and your relationship is much more likely to survive than otherwise as well as make it easier on both of you in the process.
Pray and put it in gods hand for real.
I served four and half years in the U.S. Navy and was deployed to the Persian Gulf. All I did was pray everyday and it makes you stronger.
No matter what he must conquered his fear and know he will have to overcome it. Otherwise, he is dangering himself as well as others.
you just need to be there for him, if hes scared to go over seas he shouldn’t have joined the the service since everyone knows were in a war. It will most likely be a while before he gets sent over there anyway, after basic he’ll probably get stationed to a duty station, where he will work and train more. You just have to support him, and try to be positive.
Well, all you can really do is be there for him and pray.
Him going overseas, like to Iraq or Afghanistan, is really dependent on his MOS and his assigned unit when he gets to his permanent duty station. For example, if he is a 68R or 68T, then the chances of him going to a combat zone is slim. But if he’s like an 11B or 68W, then the chances are extemely high.Keep in mind TDA units don’t deploy … TOE units deploy.
When you say he’s afraid of going overseas, I think you really mean to say he’s afraid to be deployed. When I think of overseas (OCONUS), I think of places like Europe, Japan, Germany, Africa … you know, nice places to be stationed. Deployed is more of like the warzone areas such as Iraq, Iran, Afghanistan, etc. With the difference in mind, everyone and I mean EVERYONE in their military career must serve one tour overseas accompanied or unaccompanied.
Going overseas is not so bad. It’s a great experience. Especially if it’s a warzone. It lets you appreciate what us soldiers do and reminds us why we joined in the first place. Also, being deployed can help him move up in rank as well as get him medals/ribbons. The more experience he has, the better off he will be in his military career.