Question by Ketchup: My mother is crying because of something me and my dad did. 10 points please answer i feel like a f**** idiot.?
ok so there was this engagment party it was a fake engagment party but it was whatever nonetheless a party. so my mother and father were invited and at first my mom didnt even ant to go but my dad sad it sounded like fun..,.so they went and took me (their 15 year old daughter) with them becuase my friends parents were invited and i was going to have a friend at the party. so after like an hour of chilling with my friend i get bored and im just sitting in the living room, but then i see my dad came out because he got bored and there was this one woman there that always is so sarcastic and makes fun of him and he was kinda done with her and her rude remarks about him, plus he lost the card game that the adults were still playing. so i was like “do you wanna go for a walk, dad?” cause we ALWAYS go on walks and talk (we are really close) so he was at this point bored and done with the party much like i was. so before we left he told me to go tell my mother that we were leaving. so i did and my exact words were “hey mom me and dad are gunna go for a walk” and her exact words were “youre leaving right now? …ok i guess you can see you later” so me and my dad left. the problem was, that my dad didnt say bye to anyone and i said a quick bye to my friend and then we left for our 5 nmile walk like usual. when we got back to our house my mom was in bed and the party was over and my little brother was like “mom’s mad at you two” so now we are both like shit what the hell did we do? so we go back there and she starts crying saying “honey you were my date to this party and i wasnt even gunna go, but you said it looked like fun so i went! then when you two left all our friends were saying things ike “whered your husband go” “did he ditch you? and i felt like a complete loser, not to mention i had to entertain out daughters friend becuase she was really sad that our daughter left!!!” and me and my dad know we messed up real bad and to make us feel ever worse my mom was like “you didnt even stick around for the main part! they cut the engagment cake and i was all alone sitting there” i feel so disgusted with myself for even suggesting we go on a walk and my dad feels like shit. we didnt even think about all this stuff she was mentioning now and i feel horrible. what should i do? what should my dad do? how do i deal with this! theyre arguining and she crying and my dad is trying to make things better 
please help
i just really didnt want this tension right before fathers day. goddamnit im a douchebag of a daughter.
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Answer by the fullback
I didn’t feel like reading your novel, but if it’s anything like how my family was ruined, then someone is cheating on someone. Weird arguments start happening for no reason.
…don’t make assumptions though.
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Just tell everyone to forgive and forget. You cant change what happened. Just say we wont make this mistake again. It doesnt matter who was right, just say it wont happen again. Also you could try to talk to some of the ppl who were at the party and make sure they dont have the wrong idea, but i doubt they do.
well ur mom said u could go when u asked her so she is seriously overreactung!! it will blow over by tomoz!
she probably has a right to be a little upset since she didnt want to go in the first place, but i would have though all 3 of yall would have just left at the same time or something, instead of leaving her. she might have looked like she wanted to be there, but maybe not. i dont think yall are jerks, it was just a situaional thing and she got her feelings her by yall, but yall also didnt really do anything wrong on purpose.
She felt abandoned, and it was done in front of people, which is humiliating. This is something that your mom and dad are going to have to work out between the two of them.
You didn’t really do anything wrong, your dad was the adult, he should have realized how she would feel. However, if you want to let your mom know that you know how she felt, and that you are sorry that she was left in that position, I’m sure it would help. Let her know that you love her….
If you do decide to leave to “talk a walk” at another time like that, instead of 5 miles, just go around the block and come right back….
Oooooh no! That’s messed up. You didn’t mean to. I’m sure your mom will get over it. Just give her time. The good thing is you understand where she is coming from. You’re not irritating the situation by saying she’s being dramatic or anything.
Eventually, she will forgive…hand in there.
It sounds like you didn’t think the party was that big of a deal at all! Your mother and everyone else felt differently about it.
You need to explain that you saw things the wrong way… you thought it was more casual and you had no idea that anyone would miss you or that it would be a big deal if you left.
Also tell her that next time, you will be more clear when trying to get a point across, and you’ll discuss plans TOGETHER, and make sure everyone knows exactly what is going to happen, and that everyone is on the same page.
I don’t think they’ll be fighting over this for too long. It’ll blow over after a couple of days at most, hopefully.
Best of luck!
well your mom said you could go so why is she crying but i think u and ur dad should say sorry to everyone at the party and make like a spa day or something
All you can do is apologize…
I see why your mom feels the way she does, but by the way you are describing it she may be overreacting a bit. She said it was okay that you could go for a walk… you’re not a mind reader.
This sounds like an issue that is really between your mom and dad… you just happen to be involved. Just apologize for your part and let your dad deal with the rest.
I’m a dad and I’ve been married 33 years now and speak from a little experience. It doesn’t matter who’s right and who’s wrong – its all about feelings. Don’t argue with stuff like “we didn’t do anything wrong” or “that’s just stupid feeling that way”. The thing is your mom does feel that way and it hurts her – she just wanted you (both) with her at that time and you weren’t. And here’s my 33 years worth – forget your pride and your anger and everything else – just apologise – tell her you’re sorry … because you love her and that love matters much much more than how you or your dad feel.
You both messed up,but it was an honest mistake. Tell her you’re sorry,if you haven’t already,and
remember this for next time you go out as a family. She’ll get over it.
you and your dad owe her a dinner out somewhere or something to make up for what happened.
i know you two had no intention of hurting her but she is. i know tomorrow is fathers day but take your mom out and make it her day. then if not tomorrow then sometime soon. make up for her uneventful evening she had
good luck
You and your Dad were wrong period. If you wanted to leave your Dad should have went to your Mom and asked her if she was ready to go. You and your Dad should each give your mom an apology card with a coupon in them. Yours for a night of free sitting with your little Brother while your Dad {His Coupon} takes your Mom out for a romantic night of dinner and dancing.(or whatever your Mom wants to do]. This will show how bad you both feel and honestly how can she stay mad at the two of you when you are giving her a night just about her. good luck,and maybe you and Dad should ask your Mom and Brother if they want to go for a family walk now and then.