Question by ♥Seth’s Mommy♥ 12/17/08 12:0: Pregnant with first.?
Hi guys I’m 17 years old and 8 months pregnant with my first baby. Before anyone thinks “oh shes to younge and the baby daddy left” or “shes asking is she should get an abortion.” No it is nothing like that. I’m married and we are both looking forward to having this baby. The thing is I’m fucking terrifide! Should I breast feed or bottle feed? What if he doesn’t like me? What if he grows up hating me?! I’m just so scared.. Like what if I hurt him by mistake? I don’t know what I would do. I mean after I get home from the hospital I’ll have some people but once they are all gone and my husband goes back to work its just me with the baby!! I’m so scared please give me some advice!!
having little boy we just choose the name Seth Micheal White. Due date is January 10th in case anyone wants to know. and yes I did baby-proof the house. And I do know not to leave him unless its like the crib or something like that. Thanks everyone for your help!
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Answer by Proud Mommy Bear!!!!!!!!!!!
ur going ot be a mother calm down…. ur motherly instinct will kick in and u will be fine… just believe in ur self and dont doubt ur decisions
EDIT: I was 17 when i got pregnant with my son 18 when i had my son (18 month old now) i am currently 19 weeks pregnant and my husband and i are doing fine…. so i bet u will be too
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its scary! I know from experience…just remember, do the best you can and LOVE him, which i am sure will not be a problem:-) You will see, when he comes, it all will start tofall into place and you will wonder what you ever did without him. And they dont always like you (after the age of 4 lol) Just wait until they are teenagers, no, dont get scared, you can make it! GOD BLESS~~~
congrats to you. you are going to be a good mommy for sure. all for sure. all of your worrying is so normal. it will never stop from here on out. my son is almost 2 & i am still a worry wart about stuff. lol. i think every mom wonders about their baby likeing them. they always do & they go thru stages of “how much” too. lol. thats all normal. breast feeding is the best for your baby, but you can do both too.
see if your local hospital is offering a newborn class. they have great info for you and you could bring your hubby
1) Breastfeeding is best for baby. However, if you have to work, this might not be the easiest option for you. Breastfeeding is way cheaper than bottle feeding. It’s up to you! The baby will get nutrients either way, but breastfeeding provides essential immunities for the baby.
2) The baby will need you. You’re the mother! Babies don’t have the concept of liking and disliking yet. They’re trying to survive and work on their bonding and trust skills.
3) Your child will not grow up hating you. If you try to be the best parent you can be and love your child unconditionally, that won’t happen. No worries!
4) You most likely won’t hurt your child by mistake. It happens sometimes, but don’t worry about it too much.
5) Lots of mothers are home with their babies during the day. If you need to call someone, make sure you have a phone with you at all times.
Try not to stress out so much! Research on how to do things like breastfeeding and diaper changing so you know exactly what’s to come. Also, read up on labor so you know the basics on that as well. Ask your doctor these things, too. I’m sure she could give you some wonderful advice!
parenting.com is a great resource, as well as babycenter.com. I love them both!
Good luck! You’ll do just fine. <3
Hey, those are are all normal feelings most first time moms have regardless of their age. Of course your scared! You’re about to bring another life into the world that is going to depend on you for everything. That’s is scary. I was scared to death when I was pregnant with my first baby. I didn’t know if I would be a good mother. I had been around plenty of babies before but it seemed like suddenly I didn’t know anything about a baby. You just do your best. Love them and take care of them and do your best. That’s all anyone can ever do. At one point in your child’s life they will tell you that they hate you. It’s heartbreaking to hear, but it’s not true. In order to be a good parent your child will have to hate you once in a while. Otherwise you would be letting them do whatever they wanted any old time. You will be fine. Everything will fall into place. Promise.
congrats on the pregnancy,
i’m also 17 and have an 8 month old daughter and baby boy on the way,
I’d advise you to breastfeed.
I breastfed my daughter.
You could even express your milk into bottles.
I was also worried about similar things to you,
but don’t worry it will all come naturally.
Good luck
xxx
Look once that baby is born.. your maternal instincts will come into effect. You will just know what to do and when to do it. You should definetly breast feed if possible. Breast milk has been proven to have healthier and smarter babies. At least breast feel for the first 3 days those are the most important . Its called Cholosterum. Try to calm down “what if he doesn’t like you” Sweety you are his mother. this child will start to love you from the womb. At about 7 months your baby will already recognise your voice and will know that you are mommy, they can hear your voice about 4 months but they know you at 7. So once that baby is born and looks up at you all you have to do is say hello and he/she will think “so this is what my mommy looks like i’ve been waiting to meet you” Also “hurting him by mistake” There are always accidents that happen but that happens with anyone, babies, children, teens, adults , elderly. And most likely you will feel worse about it than the baby will. I’ll give an example, in the hospital when my daughter was born…i was trying to put her little hat on and pull it down further and accidently tugged on her ear instead. I started to cry but she was ok… that was an accident. when she was a few weeks old I was clipping her fingernails and just barely nipped the skin barely, I cried again and felt so so bad. but she didn’t grow up to hate me. She loves me. She is now 3 years old and sticks to me like glue. So don’t worry , take a deep breath, watch TLC shows about bringing home baby and A Baby Story. They will have you crying but its just the hormones. You will learn a lot from those shows. haha i think every pregnant woman watches them. Good Luck and Take care and enjoy that little angel in a few months.
my sis has a 2 year old and i i can tell u being scared is normal but il tell u a few things most people won’t say a have no clue way not. but here they r it is Better to breast milk in most cases BUT if u Are sick a lot like 1 in 2 weeks or more talk to a Doctor about it and never have alcohol it can go to the kid. Next when they start to walk they will hurt
themselves hiting a table will be must likely one not to say get rid of the table only it will most likely happen so don’t worry they have hard heads at that age but if u care for the kid and love it than it will be ok.
but Always remember if they get to mach and u have done all u can but in there bed and Relax for a but 10-25 min normally works for my sis and at times it can be scary but be brave hope this helps.
Breast feeding is actually much easier, cheaper, and more convenient. It’s more nutritious for the baby too. Your hospital should have a breastfeeding specialist to help you get started. Or check out La Leche League. It just takes a little practice. I nursed both my children for a year. Of course, I also introduced baby foods and solids as appropriate. My daughter never would take a bottle even of breast milk. My son started taking bottles of formula about age 2 months at places where is was not appropriate or possible to nurse (church, football games, stuff like that). I put the appropriate amount of dry formula in a bottle and mixed it as needed. Oh, one more advantage of nursing–you don’t have to stress about how much he/she is getting because you don’t know! As long as the baby is happy and growing, that’s enough!
Babies are actually pretty hardy. You never ever leave them alone in the tub or on the changing table or on the couch, or a bed, or anything they can fall off of or into. You can get stuff to baby-proof your house to make it safer. Also, you never ever shake a baby and any idiot who tries to tell you to discipline an infant is a potential child abuser. Also, you can’t spoil an infant. Give her the attention she needs, and she’ll learn to feel secure and independent. If you ever think you are abolutely about to lose it–and you will–put the baby in his crib and walk away for 5 minutes. Take a deep breath, have a cup of decaf tea, and calm yourself. Then you can deal with pretty much anything.
Your baby will love you, but it may not seem like it right away. You teach him to love you by loving him and caring for him. They cry a lot, and that’s frustrating, but you’ll get it figured out. Helpful hint–my daughter had colic until age 4 1/2 months. She cried for hours. I used a tummy pack to carry her in and put earplugs in my ears and walked, and walked, and walked . . . . . By the time she was over her colic, I was down 20 pounds from my pre-pregnancy weight, so there was a silver lining!
Your hospital nursery can be a big help to you. You can call them at 2 am for all sorts of questions. Also, many pediatricians subscribe to a nurse advice line for after-hours problems. They are so helpful! There are even after-hours pediatric clinics these days open evenings and weekends and holidays. So far, my toddler has been sick on the Fourth of July and Thanksgiving, but we’ve never had to take him to the emergency room like we did his big sister because now we have other options.
I highly recommend the _Girlfriend’s Guide_ series by Vickie Iovine. Start with the pregnancy book, and take it from there. My sisters and I all read them. Less formal and more useful than most of the others.
You sound pretty mature, you’ll be fine. Ask your pediatrician anything you want, and if he doesn’t want to be helpful, find another. It is your first.
PS Get the epidural!