Question by ★TouchedByAnAtheist★: Ok so what is a nice way to kick someone out of your house? I think I just lost a friendship.?
Ok so I have a friend we will call CANDY. She came over with her boyfriend john. Candy lives right accross the street from me.
We had a get together at my house and 1 am came my husband went to sleep everybody left with the exception of my friend who is too drunk to drive her and her riding buddy spent the night here. Candy and john wouldn’t leave I asked them nicely, “well what are you guys gonna do cuz I have to lock my gates”(I live in very ghetto neighborhood) They were like well.., “go to sleep we’ll just chill” Like no you can’t chill, I didn’t tell them that yet but here is the rest of the story.
Candy and john told me that they went to someone else’s house, the owners passed out so they proceed to steal from them. So no even though I trust candy somewhat, I don’t trust john and I”m not comfortable with them “HANGING OUT” AWAKe drinking at my house when my lil ones are in their bedroom. I heard john telll candy that, “babe there is a ton of beer that homeboy left!” (he was referring to my husbands buddy. I went to lie down and I hear them going in and out, so I said Ok I just can’t be nice and there is no nice wayto say this so fuck it they have to go.
I went outside and told them , “I don’t mean to sound like a total biatch but you guys can’t chill here you have to go” Candy says well we’ll just stay here outside (I have outdorr furniture and a gazebo) cuz there is no room inside” I was thinking , “DUH! I’m asking you to leave can’t you take a hint?!” So anyway candy got a really nasty attitude almost knocked me over and left took john and then proceeded to argue with him in front of my house.. I locked my gates and finally went to sleep… she still has the audacity to tell one of my friend that she’s not sure why I asked them to leave??? I’m gonna see here obviously so how do I explain to her that drinking to 6 inAM is NOT acceptable in my home? I just don’t understand how people don’t get it@!
Plus it’s not like she can’t just cross the street to go home!!! But john isn’;t allowed at her house so she’d rather just not go home.
Best answer:
Answer by Echo Two
When the host goes to bed, that’s a pretty good indication it’s time to leave. Anyone who doesn’t know that is an idiot. If Candy hangs out with someone who steals and she knows it, she can’t be trusted either. Her behavior when you told her to leave pretty much indicates that. You may have lost a friendship, but it wasn’t one worth having anyway.
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And keeping this person as a friend, is important to you, for what reason???
Don’t be a sucker!
You haven’t lost anything.
First of all I don’t think you could have handled it better, this woman obviously has no knowledge of your boundaries. I doubt she realizes that her behavior was unacceptable as they have obviously been in this situation before and were led to believe it was ok.
If it was me i would forget her as she seems like she doesn’t respect you or your kids but if your friendship means a lot then talk to her and explain that you just don’t allow that in your house that you don’t want your children to grow up in a house and not know who is going to be there in the morning. I used to have house parties the whole time…sleep wherever ya can find room kinda thing but I have a daughter now and people know when they come over that nothing like that could happen, it is YOUR house and that’s Just how it is, you didn’t mean to come across rude you just didn’t think her behavior was acceptable
When you are at the host’s house and they go to bed, the polite thing to do is leave unless you were offered an overnight stay.
you do not need rude friends with sticky fingers. lucky you they were offended, with some luck, they’ll never come back.
good luck
You simply tell whoever asks that Candy & her bf “chilled” at your place all night, drinking your stuff, making noise, being totally inconsiderate–especially since you had not planned on having overnight guests. Candy lives right across the street so there was no reason why they could not have just staggered over to her place, it wasn’t like they had to drive. You don’t know or trust Candy’s bf and know that at least once before he ripped off his hosts after a party when he was allowed to stay and “chill.” And in the future if Candy brings the same guy to another of your parties, both of them are going to be locked out immediately when the party’s over, you aren’t going to give them even as much of a chance as you did this last time. Candy chooses to hang out with these low lifes, then she’d better get used to being treated like this.