Question by נєѕѕ: What do i do about my older sister who seems like she wants nothing to do with me…?(not too long)?
My sister lives next door, we have a barn on our property and she runs it. She is 30 years old, i’m 12. She met these two girls when she was 24, they were 14, and they became friends because they had their horses at our barn. She is very good friends with one of these girls, and kinda with the other. She takes the one girl EVERYWHERE! She is 19. My sister has her dad and two sisters that live an hour away. Whenever she goes there, she never brings me, just the friend. They are always talking about everywhere they go and how she knows my sisters other family, and it hurts my feelings. The only time i have really met her family is when she got married, and other random places, like we saw each other at the fair(stuff like that). My sister never takes me anywhere, only like the grocery store. Today(for like the first time in 7 years) took me with her and her friend to the area that her family lives in to pick up her husband from hunting. I was in the car with them and my sister was like “oh and when u walk into my dads house ya know on the left” and her friend were talking all about it and how her dad likes the friend(not in a weird way) and i just felt so left out. My sister goes like somewhere to look at a horse, she takes the girl. Even if i drop hints that i want to go the next time. Nope. Just the girl. The girl always seems kinda, well, disappointed, almost, when i come. Like “Hey Jess, ur coming?” just like she is let down. And the girl might be going on a trip to Idaho in the spring(she let the cat outta the bag when she was talking to me) with my sis and her husband. And when i asked my sis about it she was all like “oh MAYBE, i just mentioned it and she said she wanted to go.” It really hurts my feelings! Like sometimes i will be in the car with them and i will almost start to cry, its that bad. I sobbed for 20 mins today about it. I have hardly ANY friends, and my own sister isn’t interested. And whenever i come over, or if i ask to go somewhere with her it seems like she feels like its a chore. The most depressing thing is that she never tells me anything going on in her life, and im sitting in the car with them and they re talking all about whats going on. Also, they became friends when the girl was 2 years older than me. I just feel really left out. its like, y not me? Please give me advise on how to address this, and approach her?!
And its not like, “yes i am going through a tough time with my hubby, he can be real mean” its like she can’t make chit-chat like “oh yeah im going to try to sell my horse”
Best answer:
Answer by cмcr ♪ – тєℓℓ мє ѕσмєтнιиg ѕωєєт
It probably has to do with that fact that you’re 12, and it feels like they’re babysitting or something. Maybe you should find some friends your own age.
What do you think? Answer below!
You should possibly sit down and talk tou your sister and let her know how it makes you feel. If you can’t do that then what you need to do is write her a note about it. I think maybe if you talk it out with her she might see how you feel. You can also try an ask her if you could go next time instead of just dropping hints. Let her know that it hurts you that she never talks to you about it. Maybe your sister even thinks your a little to young to talk about what is going on in her life. Maybe your sister might even think that she has to babysit you when your with her.
I agree with the first answer. She probably feels like shes babysitting. I know how it feels to be the most mature person around the school (I go to a nontraditional school so its worse than public school stupidity) And I have been able to make friends with the teachers and one kid who understands me. I suggest you do the same so that you don’t feel so alone. Sometimes you need friends more than family and this is one of those times.