Question by AKAO4D: A question for his wife/girlfriend from the other woman….?
Dear Mrs. ____
I am writing this letter because the other day when you came by my house unannounced, you left before I had the chance to say my piece. I am still surprised you rang my doorbell looking for you husband. I would never come to your house and ring your doorbell. You called me everything but a child of God. I have never referred to you as anything but Mrs.____. I know your children by name and face. Like you, I know where you work and live. Also like you, I love your husband. I don’t expect him to leave you for me. The type of understanding we have is not what you think. I enjoy his time and company. The only thing I have asked of him is to respect me and where I live. Sexually, I have had better. That being said and the purpose of the this is to ask you one question. “Why do you hate me?” You didn’t marry me you married him. Coming to my home solved nothing other than your curiosity about how I look. It could have turned ugly and violent but I knew you were hurting. I am also glad you left when you did. If you thought I was trying to take your husband, let me assure you nothing is further from the truth. The next time you get the urge to visit, let’s handle it another way. You have my number, call. I have no problem with you coming to get your husband. You know he’ll be here. When you arrive, I will let him know you are at the door and that he should go out and talk to you. If he refuses, then and only then will I let you in to get your husband. I am willing to do this because all I asked him to do was to respect me and where I live. Since he didn’t, let me know when you want to come get him. I think is a better mature way of handling our situation. But again I ask why do you hate me?
Sincerely,
I am the other woman
Best answer:
Answer by Anita
That was some great $ hit.
Don’t be surprised when you end up buried under someone’s front porch….doubt anyone will feel sorry for you.
God Bless, child of God!
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Nice letter, and by the way have you mailed it yet?
Feel lucky she didn’t shoot your head off.
Very VERY WELL SAID!!!
So many women will not face reality but with this how could they not!!! Amen to you sister.
Well sweets, your crush, fascination with my husband, can’t be dis regarded. You can have him, and are you scratching yet?He forgets to use his medication, at first sign of a break out….
Because you are sleeping with her husband. Man, you sure are a stupid bitch.
She hates you because even though he is making the choice to be a cheater, you are enabling his behavior. If you know he is married, and still make the choice to be with him, then you are just as much at fault as he is.
I do not understand how anyone who has an ounce of respect for themselves could possibly be ok with being “the other woman”. I would never want that; I would want to be his one and only, and I don’t think that would be too much to ask.
My feeling is that people who allow themselves to become involved with someone who is married, do not have a very high regard for themselves, and do it because they can’t find someone who will give them their 100% best.
Your letter makes you sound like a saint. You’re not. You are committing adultery and adultery is a sin and it is all kinds of wrong. You expect that she shouldn’t hate you, why not? You are screwing her husband behind her back. Sure it’s her husbands responsibility to be faithful to his wife but he couldn’t have his little piece on the side if you had morals and weren’t willing to cheat with a married man. It is women like you that make men cheat and disgust the rest of us decent women. Just remember karma. You will have to pay for this one day. If not in this life then you will have to answer to god. Good luck with that.
Red
YOU DO NOT DESERVE ANY RESPECT
1. WHEN YOU FOUND OUT HE WAS MARRIED YOU SHOULD HAVE ENDED IT WITH HIM!!
2. YOU ARE NOT MATURE FOR HELPING HIM WRECK A MARRIAGE.
3. YOU ARE NOTHING BUT ANOTHER PIECE OF @$ $ TO HIM.
Not a good letter. All you are concerned about is you. Yes you don’t care about how she feels then why do you care that she hates you. Granted no one should be mad at anyone except the husband/boyfriend. Be women and move on. You should tell your boyfriend that he needs to handle his situation with his wife and only then will you see him. I understand that you respect her but she does not have to respect you. Reason: because she took those vows not you and taking those vows means something to some people. She has every right to be mad not at you but at the man. She needs to direct those angry words and actions towards the husband. Sometimes wives chose to confront the mistress because they think that maybe if you saw that she was a true human being then maybe you would realize your hurting an actual person by sleeping with her husband. Im sure your a good person but in a bad situation think about it on her side and wonder how would you feel if he did that you. Yes Im sure that you would just leave him but that is so easy to say when its not happening to you. Just be the good person that Im sure you are and handle this in a lady like fashion end the affair until he ends it with her. Good luck.
If this were me and you sent me this letter, I’d burn your damn house down.
Mrs ________.
Did you expect her to respect you? You’re sleeping with her husband and you know he’s married. Yes, he is far more at fault than you, but you are at fault, too. Creepy.
It’s very blunt..but the message your sending i don’t agree with that.She hates you because your sleeping with her husband and don’t seem to think anything about it.Women should at least have the decency to respect other women (and their self and God) and leave a married man alone.It’s really not a good look, do yourself a favor and cut him off and tear up this letter and don’t send it, because it doesn’t prove anything and it sounds like it’s coming from someone who has no sense.If he love you, he would have left his wife and if you respected yourself..you wouldn’t be fooling around with a married man,no ifs,ands or buts about it.She has ever reason to hate you and every reason to call you out your name.Your a B I T C H..but karma’s a bigger B I T C H
You are actually going to mail that? Please don’t torment that woman anymore than you already have. Don’t you have any sense of decency?
You are disgusting. i hope you are hurt worse than the other woman, and that the husband is too. you are a home wrecker and are a waste of air on our beautiful planet!!
I think you’re taking the piss to be quite honest. You should find your own man instead of stealing other womens.
And as for ‘respecting where you live’ – I think you gave up the right to any sort of respect when you started seeing a married man.
You understand that you are *stealing* time and company that he should devote to his family by choosing to be available to him?
You are very lucky and should be very grateful she came alone.
As for her ‘impolite’ behavior, do not expect her to respect you or the place you live or anything about you, after you have totally disrespected *her* entitlement and bonds with her husband and foundation of her family.
You are simply smug because you think you have found a reason to label her an ignoramus and put yourself on a high horse. Get off it already and survey the damage you’ve caused to this families life.That is what your prize of another womans husband is worth, the misery of others, merely for the sake of enjoying his ‘time’ , ‘company’ and ‘had better sex’.
You are a very shallow and selfish person, despite your attempts to seem otherwise. I hope you make better choices in your future.
Very articulate, and sincere. I would say much of the same stuff if I had the opportunity to speak to my married bf’s wife. I haven’t had a run in like that with her…yet
Dear Mrs. ____,
It was never my intention to hurt you, and it hurts me to know we would be fighting over Love…so many wars have been fought in the name of Love…nobody wins. I love him, and yes I would open my door to him if he wanted me to…but I have no intention of fighting for him, he is grown and makes his own choices in life. Whatever choice he would make, would be his. He is free to walk away anytime.
He knows where I stand, and he knows I love him… and if he wanted to be with me would. But, he chooses to go home to you each day, you and your family always come first, and that is ok with me as this is what I settle for, sadly. I do not hate or even resent you. You.., like me…love him…how could I resent you for that?
I pray you can love him the way he wants and needs to be loved so he can end this with me and finally be happy at home with you and your children. I pray for all of you each night as I surrender him to God. I do this because I know God answers prayers, and if this is within his power…it will happen. I love him unselfishly…he has a beautiful soul. I see his ‘innocence’ not his guilt.
However, HE is grown and chooses to see me, HE chooses to call me or text me, and he tells me he misses me..and is always thinking about me. I have told him all he has to do is say the word and I will walk away…and that is a promise I made to myself, and God. So, until that day, I will continue to love him
…and because I love him, I have no shame.
Please, forgive me…I love him.
To all the ladies on YA…..I am NO saint! I own my part in this. It is what it is.
I read this somewhere else a while ago.
However, it is true. I’ve always said that the problem shouldn’t be with the one your spouse cheats with, but your spouse. If you found your mate to be special, to be honest, you should understand (not accept) that someone else may want him/her too. Keep the focus where it belongs.
Are you serious? Have you never had a REAL relationship of your own or have you always been willing to feed off the relationships other women have built? That wife has little or no chance of salvaging her marriage with you there. She did not marry her husband to share him with you or anyone else. Yes, her biggest problem is with her husband, but without women like you around, she’d have a chance of working things out. You ask for respect from this man – and actually seem to expect that from his wife?? You don’t seem to respect ANYONE – not the man you’re seeing, not the wife, not even yourself. I’d hate to be you 20 years down the road – sad life!