Question by ummmmm: boyfriend always compare me as acting like a wife and i hate it !!?
In a group of my friends, I am the one always taking care of my friends, like the motherly one. And I have a boyfriend, and I like to ask questions like :
How was your day?
What did you eat at work?
Who did you go out with?
WHat are you doing?
what did you do last night?
etc….

Not all at once.

But when i ask those types of questions, my boyfriend thinks im acting like his wife! ANd i am not! HE always says to me” Stop acting your my wife” And that upsets me a lot.

Also we were suppose to hang last night and he couldnt come and i left so many text message and phone calls and he didnt come and contact me. I called him the next day and he answered and i told him that why he couldnt call me to say sorry he couldnt make it and what had happened… He said that why do i need to your not my wife. !! Later he said sorry but im still upset that the fact he puts no effort into it.

I am not mad that the fact he didnt come . but the fact that he doesnt call right away to call me.
I ask those questions casue i care about him a lot. Why would i waste my time asking him those questions if i dont care about him or love him ….

What should i do?
help please

he is 25 and i am 19 and we have been going out for 10 months and he is my first boyfriernd.

Best answer:

Answer by ker
You are being way too posessive and controlling. He feels smothered.

If you continue to grill him about his day and where he is and what he’s doing he will cheat on you because it shows you have no trust in him. Lay off. Be polite, but leave it at that. If he wants to talk about something, he will.

The reason he says you’re acting like his wife is because he feels if he was married he’d have no problem “reporting” to someone, but you are only his girlfriend and he doesn’t feel like you have the right to know his every move.

EDIT: I’m sure he knows you love him. That’s not the issue here. He probably feels like you love him TOO much right now and he can’t breathe. Don’t be obsessive.

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