Question by sackley7388: Do you have any friends who have a certain “Thing” they’ve done with their infant that makes you angry?
My husbands wife has 2 kids. She was young with her first 18, and then had her second at 22. We didn’t know her when she ahd the first but her second is 2 months younger then our daughter. I am due in 2 weeks with # 2 and at our daughters dance class the other day some of the moms were talking about our different parenting techniques ect cause the one mom’s 2 YO is like out of control and she wanted some help. Anyway we were talking about their sleeping habbit and my husbands friends wife started talking about when ehr second was an infant how she’s been sleeping through the night since 3 weeks old. At first I thought she was super lucky, until she kept talking. She started letting her daughter “cry it out” at 3 weeks! Our daughter was good about sleeping but at about 7 months there were 3-4 days where we knew she was fine and tired and just wanted to be in our bed rather then her crib and let her cry. We never “left” her to cry for long 5-10 mins tops at a time and never if something seemed “wrong”. I just can’t imagine leaving my 3 week old baby in their crib in another room to cry all night so I could get some sleep. At 3 weeks that baby was hungry or may have pooped or just literally NEEDED to be held. Even the creators of the CIO say not to start before 6 months because before then a baby crys only out of NEED not out of WANT. What makes it worse for me to listen to is how selfish she is about it. She flat out says “I needed my sleep so she cried”. Like HELLO you knew when you TRIED to have another baby they would wake up at night and need you ALOT! I seriously have lost almost all respect for this woman because of it. I know it is her decision as a mother and I didn’t say anything to her ect. But I have to see her at their dance class again tomorrow and honestly I really don’t want to. It was now 2 years ago but it makes me angry for her daughter. For a 3 week old that must have been so traumatizing. Has anyone you’ve been friends with done something in raising their infant that completely turned you off to them as a person, even if it isn’t your “place”?
I MENT MY HUSBANDS FRIEND AND HIS WIFE LOL NOT MY HUSBANDS WIFE!!!
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Answer by Spencer’s Mom is 17weeks!
yup, crying it out under 6 months is one of mine too…
same one props the bottle in baby’s crib to put feed him…
pisses me off…
as far as i’m concerned its just plain lazy
What do you think? Answer below!
That’s so sad! I am a CIO believer but not until they are at least 6 months old. That’s just crazy. It amazes me how stupid some people are. She probably thinks she’s making herself look good by making her kid sound ‘advanced’ because she started sleeping through the night so early, but she doesn’t realize that, that would be considered neglect at only 3 weeks old. I have a hard time calling people out on stuff like that too though. I feel it’s not my place since we’re all trying to make the best of this thing called life. And many kids go through far worse things than that, and we can’t help them all (unfortunately). As much as you don’t want to see this woman, you have to. Make the best of it by looking out for her daughter. Does she give her daughter a lot of attention? Do you see any signs of abuse or neglect? And if she does finally get under your skin enough, you’ll know when it’s time to put her in her place.
Look at it this way- that kid is soo going to get revenge when they hit puberty!
Pretty much the same thing for me, lazy parent. This particular woman left her baby in the cot all day and he only ever was removed from it for a bottle (she didn’t even TRY to breastfeed!) or a nappy change which happened only when she was NAGGED to do it- sometimes that poor kid went 18 HOURS without a nappy change! As for a bath, he’s only gets one when his father is there. Needless to say, I’ve reported her several times
Not supporting the head when picking them up from birth, REALLY bugged me to see the babies head flop backwards. Also feeding her so much fformula and waiting so long to give her cereal !