Question by golfronts: i cheated on my wife, now my girlfriend wants to know whats up with “us”?
ok,i had sex with a long time female friend who i had wanted since ninth grade. afterward, she said she was mad because i didn’t get off, when i attempted to explain why i didn’t get off she interrupted and said i was married and it wasn’t none of her business and i didn’t need to be honest with her. when i was getting into my car she told me to text or call her later i told her oh yeah you too, she was like, oh no your married i ain’t getting into that shit. i left that day feeling like i was 18 again, wore out and exhuasted, went home to my wife and we went on vacation.when i returned, my girlfriend we’ll call her cara, sent me a text asking to me to do her a favor and pay something for her, i told her i would rather not. she then got all defensive and pissed and we argued over text even though i tried to call her and she hung up on me and said she was too upset to talk. well, the day before yesterday i went to see her again, as we had planned, we talked for a couple hours, then she starts kissingme trying to seduce me or whatever. when i attempted to do the same she pulled away and said “i want to talk about us, i want to make sure we on the same page here, what do you want from me?” i told her i wanted to be her friend and get to know her more and i wasn’t the kind of guy to leave my wife because right now my wife is pregnant. i also told her she made it pretty clear what page we were on the last time i came over, i reminded her how she told me she didn’t want to get into my business. she then proceeded to take me into her bedroom and give me the best blowjob i have ever had, and afterward said, “well, i know thats why you came out here so…..”
i feel like shit for telling her she was my play toy, basically. i was just being honest, but i genuinely don’t feel that way, if i could leave my wife right now i would, i love cara. i just want to hear your opinion, is cara playing, or do you think cara really wants to be with me. i just can’t leave my wife first of all with no where to go, second, my wife is pregnant, third, if cara is a player, there’s no guarantee she’ll be around long. please don’t hate me for cheating, i’m young, stupid, and horny all the time, i can’t help it. i don’t do it all the time, just when someone is interested in me, and i can’t look at women like play toys, i don’t, its just i don’t want to be played. i’m afraid cara will use me for cash and i’ll look like a retard and she’ll be laughing at me. when i leave caras place i don’t laugh at her, i have feelings for her, i just am hoping she enjoys having sex with me as often as i do with her and thats what she’s all about. we flirt and talk and text secretly all the time, i want to put things in the right words next time she brings this up.
thats my story, you analyze and interpret that and get back to me if you don’t mind…
Best answer:
Answer by Charles
You made the decision to have a family, now stick with it and raise your family. You can’t boink every tart that shakes her tail at you anymore – you’re married with kid(s) on the way. Grow up and show some responsibility. Cara is the biggest mistake you’ve already made and will just get worse. Show your kids by example the kind of adults they should grow up to be – you can’t do that with Cara. So get real.
If you can’t go back to your wife like you should (is your name Mark Sanford? Ever hike the Appalachian Trail?) get lots of life insurance cause you’re going to be dead when your wife finds out…
Give your answer to this question below!
Analyze and interpret? I think that you’re a jacka** for cheating on your expected wife.
I can’t believe you would do this to your wife and she’s caring your child. This should be one of the happiest moments of your marriage. You’ll get caught and it not only effects your marriage but your whole family. There are more people involved than you know. Now how are you going to explain yourself after your caught? I tell you they will always take her side. And what’s it worth anyway? Maybe 30 mins of feeling good if that long! Make everything good with your your wife and be a good husband and father.
What kind of idiot cheats on his pregnant wife?! Youre poor wife and the poor baby, they would be better off without you, what has your wife ever done to you?!
This girl doesnt love you btw she is just using you, and playing you becuase she knows that you like her?! Wake up and smell the coffee. I think you should come clean to your wife and beg on your knees to forgive her! Why did you even marry her if you were in love with the otehr girl!?
Prat.
Tell me why did you marry your wife if every time a women show interest in you your going to F*&K them. The choice here is yours, if your wife finds out your marriage is going to suck and she will lose all trust in you. You laid a lot on the table when you got with Cara, especially when your wife is with child.
I am divorced because my wife couldn’t keep her legs together for any man who showed interest in her. Not only are you cheating your also lying.
Look I’m not trying to make you feel bad, I’m sure you already do. But you dug your grave it’s your choice if you are going to lay in it.
Personally you need to stick with one women. So lets say you get with Cara, what stopping you from F%#KING the next pair of legs that shows you interest when your with her. You must of loved your wife when you were with her, and now look. Keep your urges under control, please don’t make it a habit, because if you do your going to set your mind in a mind set that will tell your brain, “ok if you get with her you’ll be happy and the cheating will stop, oh wait she’s boring now, but if you sleep with that girl over there you’ll be happy for sure” and so on and so forth.
So please either stop banging Cara, and anyone else besides your wife, or get with Cara and only Cara and see how it works. Just really think your decision through. Divorce is a bitch, especailly in state where alimony is still in affect. Stick with your wife man, find that flame you used to have. Take her to where you first met her, and replay that first date. Be there for your kid, seperated families suck man. Don’t stick around for the kids though, thats never good. But at least give it a good college try with your wife. Maybe another thing you need to do after the baby is a vacation, or maybe ask her what she likes sexually, or what turns her on. And you tell her the same about you. Hope this helps you out a little bit man.
Good luck in love man,
Spartacus
Im going to say what most everyone is trying to say. Fuck you