Question by ★666★: Is it normal for husband to not be attracted to their pregnant wife?
Ok so I already feel like a big fat pig, my husband won’t have sex with me. and if we do, I do it for him anyway because I have pregnancy related sciatica and it’s very painful to even get off the bed. So I’m already traumatized by this pregnancy. Last night I had a nightmare that my husband cheated on my with a very young like 19 year old. I’m only 26 but in my dream I was furious and ready for a divorce he begged for no divorce..I know my hormones are causing this however;
I logged onto the computer, I double clicked my browser and it asked if i wanted to restore my last windows I selected yes because last night I was checkin my ebay sales so I thought I would finish some stuff..well all this porno came up like badjojo.com and 2 other tabs with webcam girls..I’m devastated, to me this just proves that he finds me as repulsive as I find myself..I just started crying and I”m so hurt right now….He left to work before I got up I guess he was looking at the porn this morning..
Edit; first paragraph,, I hate having sex right now but if I do it’s for him because It’s very painful for me. In other words I guess I sacrifice..to keep him happy
The second paragraph is NOT a dream.
Best answer:
Answer by Qul Huwallahu Ahad.
it was a dream
dont worry
some men dont like to have sex with pregnant women, because thers life inside you man
plus it can be a turn off too right? imagine ur husband getting fat suddenly, big tummy and all that. Wouldnt some wives find that turn off and ugly? some wouldnt.
he wants sex but not sex with a pregnant woman. nothing wrong
but in my opinion, I would still find my wife attractive in some way because I love her and would have married to spend my rest of life with her, growing old with her even when we are 64.
What do you think? Answer below!
Its pretty normal.
A lot of guys don’t like the idea of going up there when the baby is up there!
A lot of guys seriously over rate their equipment it seems, haha
wooooow all i can say is usually alot of guyz find thier wives/gf…more attractive when they r pregnant. thats how i was when my ex was carrying my son. just something hot and sexy about it…so this guy….i really dont know his deal, hopefully he will come around all that b.s. though. you 2 really need to talk about this.
That wasn’t the case in our situation. The hormones made me horny as *ell…we would meet at home at lunch for a quickie.
Then several times at night too!!
Aww Hun, being pregnant is temporary thing and in no time you will be hot mamma again. Maybe he is not having sex because he is affraid of hurting you or the baby. My Hubby is the same way, try not to read too much into the whole porn thing. He is taking care of his desires and least he is not doing it outside of home with some whore. Just try to relax, he was just probably bored and horny, don’t read too much into it. If you guys have strong marriage then no need to make a big deal about this, try talking to him and express how you feel.
Ok, the porn is normal. A lot of men watch porn, married or not, with a pregnant wife or not, whether they have sex with her or not. It’s not a sign that he finds you repulsive. It’s just the sign that he has a Y chromosome.
Apparently a lot of men have trouble with the idea of having sex with a pregnant woman. Not necessarily because they think you’re fat, but because there’s a baby up in your uterus and they’re worried it’s somehow sick or that it might hurt the child or that the child might feel it. Some men also kind of feel they are losing their place in the couple when their wives get pregnant. They feel like pregnancy is not something they can participate in and therefore may feel pushed aside. There is also that they have to adjust to the idea that you’re not just their lover and their wife anymore, but also a mother. That changes the way they look at you and the way they look at your body. You’re not just “hot” anymore. You’ve suddenly become a sacred vessel of life if you will and that can scare off some men.
Talk to him. But don’t go all emotional or he’ll just say it’s your hormones (and it partly is). But ask him if he is worried about having sex with you while you are pregnant and reassure him that it won’t do anything to the baby and that you are still his lover, even though you’re now also a mother.
PS: it’s also possible your husband realises sex is painful for you right now and doesn’t want to have sex with you if it’s not gonna please you too. Believe it or not but some men actually care whether you take pleasure in having sex or not. It could be a big turn off for him to know you don’t want to and are not enjoying it.
Did you come to terms with this? In my case, BF posted on a website (Dear Cupid, question: “Pregnant boyfriend is not attracted to me” – second response down by Spanky Sam) that it was not that he was afraid of hurting the baby, it’s that I have gained, in his words, “literally 50 lbs”. He said that even with ED meds he couldn’t get “Johnson to work.” (His post also says that he’s in his 30′s and bummed the blue pills from a friend in his 40′s — not unless he has multiple personality disorder, *I’m* 37, he’s 46, he got the doc to write the script for him, and not for the first time… It goes on to say that I have gained 50 lbs at 7 months – actually, I am due in a week and a half. I am 5’0″ and 169 lbs today at my appointment). I cry every day, and I worry that he is cheating. Please tell me that your story had a happy ending… did you come up with anything that would turn him on enough?