Question by ♥Sophia♥: Is it normal to still feel sad 4 months after the break-up? I did break “no contact” as well though.?
I left my ex in Jan/Feb 2009 as he was already MARRIED and I thought he was separated.
Someone else’s question on here made me think, it was about “unfinished business”, which my ex used to go on about all the time (after the break up) as well.
After the break up, he did try and stay in touch with me; even going as far as to try and have an affair with me (now I “knew about the wife”!) – but nothing ever happened. I would not harm my mental health like that.
He knows I am buying a flat as I started the purchase when I was still with him, and it was his practically his life mission to come and see me in the flat once completed. (later this year) I say that because even though we cut contact, I worry (yes worry cos it will take me backwards horribly) that he will try and get in touch when he thinks the flat is ready. Sure I can say “pi$ $ off but it’s mentally draining.
I guess I miss the man I thought he was, and not the real him.
Sometimes I thank my lucky stars that I am not the one saddled with a cheat, and other times I have flashbacks at random, to one of our happier times.
We’ve now had zero contact in place for about 3 weeks. Will it get easier if I stick to this? And I include no Googling/searching him on the internet, when I say zero contact
Best answer:
Answer by nuk
Things always get easier with time. You’ll get over him when that 1 amazing guy comes into your life.
What do you think? Answer below!
It’s normal for a person to feel sad after a breakup. You’ve been through alot of tough times with your partner and shared the happy moments. You once loved this person, this person was the whole world to you once. Of course you would feel sad, all those moments just suddenly disappeared. I believe what you done is very mature, not contacting him anymore (normally i would say that you should keep contact with your ex, you don’t want all those times to completely go away, you can atleast be friends). But because this man is obviously an idiot, cheating on his wife… It is a smart choice that you decided not keep in contact, that way it would keep you of trouble (from his wife discovering your relationship). You should stick to this, what you are doing is right. You wouldn’t want another women sharing the same pain as you, but that man is obviously an idiot one day he will pay. I know it is tough trying not to miss him, but stay strong because you are worth more
i still felt sad for my past relationship for more than a year so i guess yeah it is normal.people say that as time goes by, it will get easier, but i personally think that it will get harder first, then it will start to feel easier.as time goes by, u will start to miss him and wonder how long u two haven’t had any contact, but stick with the zero contact and finally u will be able to have peace with the past (mean, you will feel be able to accept even the most painful memory, as a lesson in your life).
sometimes man does not reveal his true color when he seek for our attention, he tries to live up your fantasy of an ideal man.but you know, eventually the reality will reveal itself. if u feel that way, it’s normal, as a part of grieving process, but don’t get your self drifting with your memory.
believe that you’ll deserve a real man whom will give you the real love and in time you will learn to love again
good luck dear