Question by jennyhomes6578: just found a lenthy love letter in my bfs briefcase from an old gf,should i worry?
been dating tom for almost 6mons.right before i met him he broke-up with his gf.they have been dating on and off for the last 15 yrs(he left his wife for her).he has kep in touch with her since they broke-up 7 mons ago but has told me they were just friends.well last night i found a 5 page love letter from her in his briefcase.it went something like this “what tom murphy means to me” then she had eash reason numbered #1.you told me i will allways be # 1 to you #2.i love the way you smile when u look at me…and this went on for 5 pages! i could tell by the way she was speaking she wrote this after they brokeup.when i asked my bf about it he just blewed it off and said oh that thing its been in there forever i just forgot to take it out.well maybe so but i sware it was not in there last week,plus it was right infront how could he “over look” a 5 page letter?my question is what is she up to wrighting something like that reminding him of all the things he has done/said to her?
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Answer by chickidy
Don’t jump to conclusions so quickly. You know what they say trust is the key to a healthy relationship. Trust him, has he done anything in the past to make you not want to trust him???????? If he has then you might want to rethink your relationship. Let it go for now. But if you find anything else suspicious that suggests that his ex still loves him or anything talk to him.
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Be alert! Something is going on, keep a close eye to him . Start checking things…
You should worry ,but you also do something. Research who’s her, where she lives, Are they in touch? of course all this under radar.
Good luck!
why r u looking in his briefcase to begin with? its apparent that u dont trust him and with no trust there is no relationship
BE WORRIED! BE VERY WORRIED! What is he doing with that in his breifcase??? Sounds to me like a NEW letter that he was hiding from you. If I were in your shoes I would tell him on NO uncertain terms can he continue his “friendship” with this woman. Considering the contents of the letter, it’s not an unreasonable request. Secondly, I would ABSOLUTELY call her and see what she has to say. Tell her you found the letter and that you don’t appreciate her chasing your man. Be prepared, however, he may be giving her encouragement, or worse yet – seeing her on the side. Good Luck!
They’ve been dating for 15 years on and off? RUN!!! He left his wife for her. He might leave you for her sonner or later.
Sorry, but this doesn’t look good at all. I agree he probably didn’t forget about it if it was right on top. What did he do with the letter after you found it? Was he willing to throw it away or did he want to keep it? If he is willing to burn it or whatever, then he is probably ready to cut ties to the past. But if he wants to hang on to the letter, then he still has at least some sentimental ties. Ask him if he is over her and ready to move on.
The guy I’m seeing right now has been pretty upfront about being hung up on a girl he dated for 6 months, 8 years ago!!! It hurts like hell. But I decided to just keep my emotional distance from him. If he still loves that girl, fine, let him. I’ll just use him for sex and company until I find someone who is going to love me. Maybe you should do the same!
Sit down and talk to him about it … Usually if a girls been in the picture for a long time the guy takes longer time to get over her… Trust me i know my fiancee was with his ex for 3 years … She calls him all the time and i complain because it hurts me to know he’s still talking to her… Just talk to him about it and tell him what your feeling