Question by Alexander T: My wife doesnt want me inside my house alone?
My wife and I have been married for a year,and I’ve never really noticed this until recently. One time,I was sick and stayed home from work,and she called her work and told her she was sick,no big deal. Another time,was a holiday,in which I was off and she wasnt. She called in sick and at her job,if you call in sick on a holiday,you dont get paid for that day without a dr’s excuse.
Everytime she goes somewhere,she absolutely NEEDS me to go,and if I’m busy,and staying home,she wont go.
Last weekend was the final straw. I was oustide mowing the lawn,and she comes outside to tell me she’s going shopping with her mom. I was excited that she was finally going somewhere without me. I finished cutting the grass and was going into the house and my door was locked. She locked me out of the house! So,I have a spare key hidden in case of lockouts,so I used it.
She came home,came inside,and said:
Her:(upset)”What are you doing?”
Me: “watching TV”
Her:No,why are you in the house?
Me: I took my shoes off at the door
Her: NO,I locked the door when I left,how did you get in here?
Me: Spare key
Her: I dont want you in the house when I’m not here! (she yelled)
Me: Why not? I pay the house note
Her:Ughhh! (storms off)
Whats the deal?
Best answer:
Answer by Megan M
Sounds like she is a psycho!!
What do you think? Answer below!
Your wife sounds like a psycho…. and pretty controlling too.
Sounds like you married a winner.
Don’t even know what to say except – that’s not normal.
Wow…she’s hidden something VERY serious in there, and she’s afraid you’ll find it.
Her behavior is cuckooville, and she has NO right to stop you from being in your own house.
Tell her she either stops it, or she leaves.
She is FUBAR’d up dude…dump her sorry azz and move on to someone normal!
That is really insane.
omg she is a controlling wife, and how long have you been married and never been home alone!!! lmao she sounds really scary to me!!! be careful with that woman!!
Dude….run like heck and don’t look back….she probably changed the locks already.
She sounds like a nut. You are a grown man who is capable of taking care of yourself, you need to tell her to stop acting like a nutball.
The deal is she is a freak…
That’s probably the weirdest thing I’ve ever hear and I do hope you aren’t serious
My first thought is that she has secrets and stuff in the house she is worried about you finding.
However, why on earth would she EVER admit she didn’t want you alone in the house?!
That’s jacked up…
Have you asked her why she doesn’t want you in the house when she isn’t there, without being sarcastic?
Most likely, it is one of the following 2 things.
1. She is a completely insane psychotic paranoid person who thinks you’re going to cheat if you’re in the house alone, or that you’re going to try to do something to trick her/set her up.
2. She is hiding something from you inside the house and doesn’t want you to find it — if she’s home, she knows you won’t end up coming across it.
Either way, she’s messed up. Seriously.. what?! Tell her tough crap — it’s your house too and you have every right to be in there, and she better not lock you out again!
If she locks you out again, change the locks and don’t give her a key.
You absolutely have to find out why she’s so paranoid. Maybe she has a phobia, or maybe she’s in need of therapy for something that affected her to where she doesn’t trust others around her things.
Or maybe she’s just in need of controlling your every move…..
She’s sounds abnormally possessive and mental case. Leave now before she sleeps a pill in your drink.
wow. she’s crazy. maybe hiding something?
I have no idea. That sounds like a big deal. I would be really upset if I were you. It sounds like shes controlling, but it also sounds like she has underlying issuses. I mean its your OWN house, you should come and go as you please. What did she expect you to do, twiddle your thumbs outside till she got back? Talk to her and ask her whats up, if she refuses to talk about it, i suggest you tell her how its going to be. Good luck!
This can’t be real.
You need to go and buy both a skirt and a pair of pants. In the middle of the living room, open the bag and put on the pants, giver her the skirt. Then look at her and tell her to get you a beer.
Sit down and repeat.
Saturday night, without asking permission, have a poker cigar party and let her clean up.
Oh, now that you have those pants, don’t go shopping, ever. . . not for food or clothes. Maybe for her birthday only.
PS – Tell her she is insane!!!
Funny, great story. My wife won’t let me inside of her, so in comparison your problem isn’t as bad, methinks, although I will admit you do have a weird situation there.
Is anyone that insane? I would be real worried about sleeping around this woman.
psycho!! She may be hidding something from you that doesn’t want you to find. You are the man of the house don’t let her control you.
Idunno, that’s a thinker! She’s just weird maybe? LOL
She is insecure and has issues. It sounds like she needs control of every situation & wants to keep tabs on you. Not too sure why your WIFE would lock you out then become angry when you enter your own house. Perhaps you should look into some help for “the two of you” (her).
My first thought was separation anxiety or possessiveness. But you have got to find out what the deal is here because it is inevitable that you will have to be there without her. Get to the root of this. That she purposefully locked you out is insane. She has her motives and because they impact you, you have to know…then you will know what to do about it.
She is hiding something she is afraid you will find if you ever look! I would tear the place apart until I found what she was hiding.Then get a divorce!
She sound’s a little loopy to me but you may want to just straight out ask her why she doesn’t want you in the house by yourself.
so you married my ex?
Ummm… First that’s indicative of real issues. You can hope if you are careful and observant to get to the bottom of them over time. But it isn’t going to be easy or quick.
I am not going to judge your marriage. I am not there. I am not going to judge your wife. I have never met her or you. I am assuming you love your wife and want to stay with her or else you wouldn’t be asking for help. What I am going to say is something that I have found magical when looking at these issues. Humor…. As an alternative to fighting…..
If she calls in sick with you, make a joke about it. If she locks you out of the house and you use the spare key to get in, make a joke about it. The more she seems uncomfortable, the more to up the humor and try to make light of it. Humor is a way of managing tension. Focus on using it to generate the right tension and get rid of the wrong ones.
For example…. (It’s critically important to smile and use a joking tone of voice.)
“I don’t want you in the house when I am gone….” might be responded to with a smile and a wink “Where else am I going to meet my hot girlfriends?” (Maybe she really is worried about an affair and not able to say so?) If she gets mad you find some way to carry that on….. “No.. Don’t send your mother to watch me.. She’s too good with throwing knives and I don’t want to get killed….”
If she’s not a complete psycho (and she wouldn’t be if you married her right?) then this may make things better. People usually forget to flirt during marriage…. Flirting takes social tension and awkwardness and redirects it towards sexual attraction. Anywhere there is a problem, if you can flirt about it….. that;s a good thing.