My wife left our new house after we had a bad fight, I said that I would leave but she went with the kids to her parents house. This is the first time she has left me. I have asked her to come back and talk (by text message) but she hasn’t answered me yet. What should I do? I afraid her parents are going to arrive on my doorstep any minute. The fight was bad and it was over my parents coming down to see us during the week.
I want her back
count your blessings shes gone
You have to wait and let things cool down. I am sure she will be back by Monday the kids have to go to school.
give her time to cool off
Give her time. Just be honest about your feelings when it is time to talk.
What is the REAL problem here. Most do not get this upset over the in laws. Why was their potential visit such a problem?
Is that the only reason? think about it and ask her. listen to her, maybe she has a good reason. Remember your life is with your wife now. if your parents are making her unhappy you should do something about it.
give her space and when she is ready to talk- Listen.
She needs time to cool off. She’ll be back and when she is, talk calmly and openly about the argument.
Cool yourself off…
Give her time to cool off as well…
Apologize if you made mistakes…
and pray….
Tell her that. I heard a really good analogy, about making your marriage fireproof, that it means you can withstand a fire, not run out of the house during one. I’m sure she’s just cooling off, i’m not sure why she left, but when she comes back let her know how you felt, words can do wonders.
Well I don’t know what you consider a bad fight, but time heal all wounds. give her sometime to cool off. Remember she is just as upset as you are. And buy god stop texting her if you want her back like you say you do give her some time to cool off when she is ready she will come back and take to you or call you.
If you are keen on saving your marriage you have to give up one side . So should your wife .. The final decision depends upon whether you need her more or she needs you more .
If you are going to Stand on issues external to you and on which you you have no control you are going to lose out . Apologise to your wife without standing on ego issue . Win over her with love however long it takes . For heavens sake do not hurt the children who are caught in between two strong egoistic adults
Does she not like your parents? Or do they come visit regularly and it was a bad time for them to come visit?
I guess instead of texting her i would call her by phone or better yet go to her parents place and ask her to talk things out with you,I don’t know what she has against your parents? but im sure something can be worked out weather they come visit at another time or possibly she can put her plans on the back burner if your parents don’t come to visit on a regular basis. Maybe she had big plans that can not be put on hold? maybe then you could set something up with your parents to come at a later time?
i don’t know why your parents coming down would lead to such a dramatic exit. but just give her timw. trust me, my husband gets on my nerves sometimes and i leave for a nightthen come back and give him the silent treatment cuz talking to him after a break still pisses me off. but the short of it is she loves you and she’ll be back. just ive her some space. then when she gets back ask her if she’s ready to talk it out and come to a compromise. if you don’t hear from her in two more days then call or go over there. you still have a right to your kids
you have kids so at some stage shes gonna need to talk to you. Just hang in there. She probably just needed some space.
Tell her the truth. that you love her and you want her back. That you will sort out whatever it is with your parents.
I think it will be okay. Leave a message on her phone. Its nicer than texting. Just leave the message saying you are sorry and you want to talk and when she is ready you will be there. then leave it up to her.
Text to me is a bad way to appologize, you should have called her. She needs to hear it in your voice that you are sorry. If her parents show up you don’t have to let them in. You need to find a way to compromise in your wants with her.
Keep your house and you in good shape, wait the things cool down, then go to ask her to back again, never give up! Show all of your sincere!
The important thing is sort the problem which cause the fight.
If she likes flower or chocolate, place one to the house everyday, put card say sorry.
are you saying she is trying to separate you from your parents. if she succeeds you will be in a terrible shit.
fighting does not solve problems. start preparing for defence and put facts in place.
give her a few days if she fails to show up take some elders with you to her parents home. don’t go alone for you will be beaten properly
She will be back and just give it time!
Did you raise your hand?
If not that behavior was uncalled for.
I would let her stay away as long as she wants.
She’ll be back for clothes soon.
Tell her that the next time she walks out she can leave the kids and not come back.
If this was not a violent argument and one of you ends up walking there is somethimg very wrong going on.
In the meantime, change the locks.
dont worry things will be fine just calm down n give her time to calm
n wn she is ok tell her tht u dont want her to leave n tll her how much u love her n try to tell her how u think nicely wthout an ugly fight
good luck
Texting is not the right thing to do when you are talking about getting your wife back. You should do the right thing and call her. texting is for teens. You are a man. act like one. Call and make it up. Don’t leave it too long while you waste time texting and posting messages on here – what’s the matter with you?????
Is there any alcohol in the house? The use of alcohol could lead to many strange things etc. Get rid of it. Alcohol within a marriage do not go together. No matter what. That would be step one…
Step two – allow for a cool off period, but not for long though. She could start looking else where…
Step Three – Never tell your spouse, you are going to leave. That would never resolve issues within a marriage. Rather stay and talk things out.
Chances are quite high that your wife is either back right now, or will be back soon? Some women get quite weirded out by the knowledge that their in-laws are coming to town, this may have caused her some high stress? also you mentioned a new home? moving or any sudden change in living arrangements while are very exciting, also is a major change for the entire family, these changes can take some time to adjust to. Observing the info that you provided, in the future, when you are in any situation where their is a change of lifestyle don’t bring the parents around till you have completely settled in. Just because your t.v is right where you want it, and all your belongings are unpacked doesn’t equal settled in, getting adjusted to your surroundings takes time, and not all two people adjust at the same amount of time. Your wife will be back, and when she comes back, sit down and talk to her about what you can both do next time to ensure that you are both on the same page?
If you want her back, prove it! Don’t be afraid of her parents stopping you. You get your sorry bum to the flower shop and get her a big bouquet and go to her parents’ house before they come to you. Tell her you just want to sort things out because you love her. And you can’t just end things over a fight. The whole point of a marriage is so the partners make mistakes and learn from them.
A mutual concession, i suggest. Compromise.
ask ur parents to talk to her parents. mmm. if it has been a arranged marriage.. its for them to sort it out.
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