My wife moved out 2 weeks ago saying that she could not get over the things in the past. Which was just a fight and nothing more. She has nick picked everything thing that I do , I asked her the other day if she loved me when we got married and she said yes. Now we have only been married for a year.All this stuff she left me for happen before we got married . So why leave now or marry me in the first place?
let her go its over and your right sometimes these things happen get a lawyer get divorced and let her go
Apparently your wife thought a marriage certificate would change you or change her feelings of unforgiveness towards you–when they didn’t she let bitterness rule her heart and she left you.
I hope the next time you have a serious relationship you’re more focused on a person’s moral character rather than their availability or appearance.
something small? as in d!ck?
You start by saying she left because of a fight nothing more…..then you go on talking about ALL this stuff. So is it possible you are minimizing how serious the situation was.
It sounds like your wife has issues with forgiveness and letting go of the past. Maybe she thought in the beginning that she could get over it, and now realizes that she couldn’t. Give her time and maybe she will work it out in her mind what is important and what isn’t. A lot of times when people nit pick over the small things there is something bigger bothering them.
Sound’s like she never made up her mind about the problem’s, if you love her which you are married to her so im gonna guess you do =)..
then you need to sit down with her, very loving, very trusting, very open to hear what ever she has to say and everything! Everything.. if you wanna make this love continue, your the man… make it happen.. trust in her and love her… Live the life you love, love the life you live “BM”
God Bless and Good Luck… (p.s. she still loves you, she just is scared of what the future is gonna be like if there are already these confused times) go get her
Drop by drop…………pretty soon, you’ve got an ocean.
I get a feeling that what was in your past was more than something little and that for her it may have bothered her but she tried to overlook it. But it stuck with her and she must have let it bother her a lot for it to finally come out again, but when someone has time to stew about things that can be the result. I also guess that there must have been other little squabbles along the way, so did this ever come up before? If so, then it was stewing pretty good for a while. So it wasn’t for a fight and nothing more, it was for something more, something you didn’t tell us about. If you had you could have had other readers reactions to what nothing was.
it really sounds as if she is fishing for any excuse be it a flimsy one or not. when men or women do this its most always because they have someone else and need to find an excuse rather than be honest about their reasons for leaving. people get married for all kinds of reasons and when their expectations don’t meet the realities and circumstances, it can spell trouble. most people won’t leave unless they have somewhere to go, and someone else.
Somethings, people just can’t get over. I feel she thought marriage would change the issues between you two. And unfortunately it hasn’t.
If she left you after only a year of marriage then she like the IDEA of being married much more than actually being married. She was ready to put your effort into the excitement of planning a wedding, but not the hard work of actually making a marriage work. The excitement and thrill has worn off, she was never ready to be a wife and the nick picking was her was of showing how upset she was (with herself for making a bad decsison).
Easy come easy go… sounds like she is non committal. Time to move on.
** Maybe she has something to hide**
Be calm and let her work it out. Hell I’m married over 20 years and I hear about crap I did when we dated. Women are like that. Oh, but what she did is ‘ancient history’ so forget it.
She just woke up and realized she is ‘freakin married’ and went a bit nuts.
Either she will be gone or will come back. It is all up to her.
You stay….don’t pster her…but answer when she calls. Keep calm and see what happens.
But keep in mind she has given you a pass…so if you have second thoughts…just say ‘you were right’ and split.
BC