Question by slamdunk: Do I or don’t I tell the wife about this?
A couple my wife knew from college always seemed to be somewhat strange and weird to me. But, they did help her through a major personal crisis when she was in school, so, she she felt indebted to them, I always tried my best to put up with their pecular ways. But, something happened last week, and I am wondering if I should or should not tell her about this.
Since my wife was out of town on business, this couple invited me over for dinner. Due to a serious accident, the husband has had his right arm in a sling for the past few months. After dinner, he and I went into the family room to watch a baseball game. A few minutes later, the wife shows up wearing a tight t-shirt, and it was obvious she had removed her bra. She sits down next to me on the coach, plops her barefeet in my lap, and asks if I would mind massaging them, since the husband has not be able to oblige her with such kindness since breaking his arm. When I looked toward the husband, he smiles and says, “Go ahead, its cool with me.” Even though I felt awkward, they did have me over for dinner, so I started massaging her feet.
About 10 minutes later, while I was massaging and talking to the husband, the woman plants a kiss on my cheek. When I looked at her surprised, she pulls up her t-shirt to show me her boobs, and says, “You know, there are other things he hasn’t been able to do because of that broken arm that I miss.” Startled, I look toward the husband, and he’s smiling saying and said, “Hey, I’m not the jealous type, as long as you let me watch!” I quickly told them maybe I better go, and got up and left.
My wife thinks the world of these two, and if she knew about this, she would probably be very seriously emotionally crushed. Do I dare tell her about this?
Best answer:
Answer by Bea Real
Dump the freaks. Tell the wife why.Give her some credit for realizing these are not the people you need to associate with.
Unless you both are into swinging & that’s what this couple is.
Just because they were nice to her doesn’t mean she knows them completely. Get her feelings on it.(Shoot, maybe she was like that with them & they are testing you to see if you approve)But hopefully not, in that case she needs to know. Main thing is speak up. To your wife & to these people if need be. Just because someone asks you to do something doesn’t mean you have to. I’m thinking your wife will agree with you that these people aren’t the type you both wish to associate with . Shame on them pulling this.Anyways, never hide things from your partner. Honesty & communication & trust are the key ingredients to a good relationship.
best to you both.
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I personally would tell her although she will probably find it to be unbelievable.
keep it to yourself, just never be alone with them again and avoid contact with them.
Absolutely you should tell her. Great job taking the high road. That must have been tough. Not all men could have done what you did, with them in your face like that. Yes, tell your wife. She needs to know.
I would only b/c how will you be able to be around them even with your wife there? If you keep making up excuses for not being around them she might start asking questions. It’s better to be open in your relationship.
I totally think you should tell her! Its better if she heard it from you then them
tell your wife… she will understand.
tell her, its safer for you that way lol. No lying or keeping anything from her. If you don’t tell her and she somehow finds out she’ll most likely be mad at you and wonder if there is another reason why you didn’t tell her or if there is anything else you haven’t told her.
If this couple is important to her and important in her life, then she should know about this aspect of their personalities. If her trust is poorly placed (and, um, they encouraged you to cheat on her… which would break both your trust with her AND her trust with them), hiding that from her would be worse than helping her to continue to see them in a false light.
Also, you’re her husband, and another woman came on to you. It was obvious and deliberate, and weird. That’s something you should tell your wife under any circumstances.
Give her the facts; tell her what happened, and, if you like, let her know that you’re sorry to have found out that they are this way, because you know how much they’ve meant to her. Being understanding doesn’t have to mean perpetuating a grossly uncomfortable situation.
This is an extremely tricky situation….
But as they always say honesty is the best policy …
Try maybe explaining it and hopefully she wil understand, or maybe try talking to them and telling them it made you feel uncomfortable and that you arent to sure on how to handle the situation with them…x
or with your wife .. try to arrange something with them about not saying anything or you will tell her what happened which could possibly ruin there friendship xxx
yeah i would tell her beacuse if she finds out from them she may not trust you anymore
more than likely they will try the same thing on her ,if they havent already
Sounds like a bunch of swingers – and if that’s true, that’s the lifestyle they choose to live…
Talk to the couple – explain to them that you are all about bein’ faithful to your wife – you may want to tell your wife incase they do, while thinkin’ there’s nothin’ wrong with it..
its your wife no matter wat u shouldnt keep secrets from her even the ones that possibly could hurt her. tell her the story the same way u posted from here u honestly did nothing wrong and on top of that u left when u knew that things were gonna become worst she may or may not believe u just dont argue let her have the final thought if she wants to believe u if uve never lied to her then it shouldnt be a problem because who would make claims like this if those r her friends then she shouldnt be having friends apart of her life like that. do wats best for your wife not wat u think is best