Question by !!Brileys mommy!!: has anyone stuck around in a shitty relationship “ex wife probs” so long that it almost drove you insane..?
im in one now.. i love him.. he loves me.. “u guys will say obviously not lol” but i know he does.. his ex wife has been coming in and out, bothering up the whole 8 months we have been together.. it causes a bunch of fights, she acts like hes given her a reason for her to stick around, nobody in their right mind would stick to someone that long 
we have asked her NICLEY to leav eus alone…..:( i would love to have the cops called on her, but he wont let me lmao cause she doesnt call very ofter.. but she just isnt getting the picture that we wanna be left alone.. She lies out of her ass about him.. and says that they messed around while we were together.. shes trying to ruin us.. what should i say to her?? something kinda nice, im sick of being mean to her, im starting to feel bad for her….but i just want her to leave us alone. thank you 
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Answer by Polski
Don’t worry be happy.
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Good luck with that one.
I dated a guy and his ex-gf would NOT leave us alone!
It was sickening!
I did call the cops on her once when she came right into the house to yell at us. This woman was super messed up in the head.
I kept telling him to get a restraining order, but he wouldn’t. I started realizing that he was a spineless man and I got out.
Last time I ran into him, he had moved and she bought a house right around the corner from him. CRAZY!!!!
I would suggest a restraining order, and the two of you need to STOP being nice. You both (especially him) need to put your foot down.
Unfortunately there is not much you can do-it will be up to your man. He needs to tell her(on the phone in front of you) that he no longer has feelings for her and that she needs to move on and leave you guys alone. She is getting you worked up and upset which is exactly what she wants-don’t let her do that! Ignore her and make sure your man talks to her soon. Make sure she knows that you guys are happy and that her trying to cause problems is not working. Keep ignoring her and eventually she will realize she is an idiot who needs to move on.
I ignore the heck out of my husband’s ex and always have from the onset when she started showing her problems. I do mean serious problems that eventually got her in a lot of hot water. My SS would say things about her but I would not respond to his statements either. Now I am real glad I did not take the bait because my SS has confirmed manipulation problems and pretty much talks about everyone in the family to gain attention/sympathy… He gets none from us (sympathy that is), no reaction, nothing so hopefully he learns to not be like his BM. Sorry hon but if you want to make it work you have to learn to ignore–she only wants a reaction. If she doesn’t get one she will either stop or take it to the point that she does things to you. Then when she is doing them directly to you–have her locked up and let her think about it for a while. Some people can not behave like adults because they never got out of the High School stage of life. Regardless, do not engage in verbal assault with her, because no one wins.