Question by College~~Bound: I adopted my ex wife’s daughter 5 years ago, we divorced, can she tell me what to do with my daughter now?
I adopted my ex wifes daughter about 5 years ago. She is now 8. She hasn’t seen her biological father in all that time because my ex said some very nasty things that he supposedly did and we never thought twice about it. Since we’ve divorced, I’ve met someone who I’m in love with. Come to find out, she is close with and family to my daughters biological father. We’ve also found a folder of documents from psychologists and children and youth services that I never knew existed before. It turns out that all the things she accused her ex of, she was actually accused of by children and youth, but she never told me that.. I was completely in the dark about what really happened with CYS but now I know since I found the original docs she left at my house.. Move on a year, and now that I “know” the bio father, and I’ve found that folder, I’ve realized that EVERYTHING she said was a lie.. and I’ve also learned that she has mulitple personality and bipolar.. which I’ve suspected but never knew she was actually diagnosed with. Anyway, to get to the point, we told her that my daughter was getting to know her bio father, since we can’t really avoid it, he’s going to be around considering he’s my fiance’s family. She didn’t believe us, but played it off and said “it’s fine, i talk to him all the time” well, when she seen him yesterday, it hit her that we weren’t lying to her and she started telling me today through text that she will not allow him to see my daughter and she will stop it because she will keep my daughter away. I have joint custody of my children. My thoughts are, I am her legal father, I legally adopted her.. as long as I’m not putting her in danger, and my daughter is okay and wants to know her bio father, can she stop it, especially considering it’s my future wifes family, I can’t really avoid that?
Also, since this is all so knew to my daughter, and me, I let him come here and visit with her in my home, supervised. He has a 1 year old daughter now and a wife that he brings with him. As I get to know him, and as I see proof of my ex’s true colors, I realize that this man never did a thing wrong. Since our divorce, she’s done the same thing to me. She’s accused me of abuse, filed a pfa, broken picture frames over my head, attacked my gf, and she does abuse my children. She is being investigated again by CYS. She did all these same things to the bio father and I never knew. She uses the courts, plays the victim and wins. So knowing how manipulative she is, I just wanted to get opinions on if she can stop my daughter from knowing her bio dad and from knowing people she will be around as family anyway, once I am remarried.

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Answer by Bob S
tell ur ex to go to hell

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