Question by Joan of Darkness: The Ex: Should you feel violated when she contacts your boyfriend out of the blue to brag?
My boyfriend’s ex wife left him for another man. He had a hard time with being dumped like, he was laid off, and all types of interesting things were happening to him in between. Then, he met me 
We’ve been together for a while, and are quite happy.
Recently, his ex wife emailed him to tell him that she is with someone that she thinks she will spend the rest of her life with. We know for a fact that she is lying. My boyfriend called her a viscous hater, and I”m tired of her.
Should I be feeling violated?
Best answer:
Answer by Gina Bodina
Just block her emails.
Who cares who’s shes with or if she is married? She’s not his problem anymore, she’s someone elses.
The sooner you two ignore her attempts of communication, the sooner you two will be happier!
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You should feel nothing at all. She is trying to make your boyfriend feel bad with her good fortune, which is really pathetic. Even more so because you know it’s not true. She is still living in the past and fighting a battle that is over. There is no need to react to that.
No. You should not be feeling violated but you should be furious about that woman still having a valid email address for your beau.
He needs to make you feel better by at least doing away with that particular email address and block all other access to him that this fool of a stupid woman has to your man as soon as possible. Delete the whole email account and create a different one that only you and he, (your guy friend), knows. She still wants him somehow, somewhere down deep inside because when you don’t wanna be bothered with someone you will not want to bother that person; and if she is so into her new man and all she wouldn’t even have the time to stop and harass anybody. You said that you are tired of her. What else has she done? Why are you all still so connected? What’s really going on? Learn how to ignore stupid people. I did. I’m all the happier for it too!!! Just remember, vengence belongs to God.
Sure you should feel violated, we’re girls, that’s what we do. We also want to get even. I think that since you got the guy, you should feel vindicated. Really why else would she be bragging about something like this.
Should you fell violated?? Uhm no i cant see why you should be. She inst hitting on your dude so idont see what the problem is. Stop being sensitive. I wouldnt do her that favor, because its obviously what she wants.