Question by Naciye: This woman says I am a “homewrecker” & blames me for turning her husband’s head…but I don’t know who she is?
My name’s Seya and I’m 30 years old, Persian by origin.

I am engaged to be married to a lovely guy, and have only had a few relationships before this, even though I am very much a “party girl” so I am sure people make assumptions.

Please tell me what you think –

Between the ages of 20 and last year, I tried very hard to become a model. I joined maybe 10-15 agencies, mostly online, and did get some work but very few jobs – maybe 5 jobs in 9 years.

My facebook and myspace were full of my pictures and portfolios. You can also find pictures of me if you google my name.

Now this is what’s been happening to me since May.

I am trying hard to remove all traces of my photos etc (NEVER anything distasteful) from the internet, due to my engagement. I’ve deleted myspace, most of my modelling profiles, and cut my FB friend list from 800 to 149. Despite this, the following keeps happening -

Some girl (I assume) has obviously heard of me from somewhere, and must have saved a lot of my online pictures – and in saying this, I include pictures from my FB page as well as online ones open to anyone – and this girl was, during May – August sending me awful letters, from the US (I am in Europe). I think she is the wife of some guy I was friends with on FB.

These included:

~Blown-up photos of me (like I say, some from my FB, some from my public online portfolios) calling me “sl*t” and “homewrecker”. I have no idea what that means, as I have never had an affair. I think someone has got the wrong end of the stick, and I DID used to flirt a lot with my guy friends on FB, and maybe some disgruntled wife followed our conversations (one guy in particular but it was innocent!)

~This girl has found out where I work, and called my boss and told her she’d be pressing charges against me for “harassing” her husband. She has also called me maybe 5 times, screaming at me to leave her man alone.

It has stopped for now, but it really freaked me out.

I got my best friend to send her a message (she inadvertently left her phone number on my voicemail) to warn her not to mess with me, as she “would not like the consequences”. I admit I also started threads on my FB page (knowing this person has access via her husband’s account) stating all the nasty things that would be done to her. But I never addressed her by name, only as “my lil stalker”.

One of the letters she sent me alluded to the fact I am inflammatory and flirtatious because I have 1000s of photos on my FB account, which I think I am entitled to do, but she has obviously seen me and her husband’s conversations/chats on his FB, and has decided to make my life a misery. I still have this guy as a FB friend.

I have spoken to the guy who I used to flirt with, and he insists it’s not his wife doing this. Besides, the letters are coming from the US, and we are in Europe, like I say.

What do I do? I have reported it but no crime has been committed. She’s made no threats exactly. When will this end? (I have not gotten anything for a few months now)
I have reported you for calling me a troll, as believe me, I am very far from one. How dare you?

Best answer:

Answer by Chris
sticky situation. you can always change your address. maybe there is more to this guy, or maybe it’s a different guy’s wife….

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