Question by Pebbles: This woman says I am a “homewrecker” & blames me for turning her husband’s head…but I don’t know who she is?
I have asked this before, before anyone tells me off, but I left out some important info.
My name’s Seya and I’m 30 years old, Persian by origin.
I am engaged to be married to a lovely guy, and have only had a few relationships before this, even though I am very much a “party girl” so I am sure people make assumptions.
Please tell me what you think –
Between the ages of 20 and, I guess, last year, I tried very hard to become a model. I joined maybe 10-15 agencies, mostly online, and did get some work but very few jobs – maybe 5 jobs in 9 years.
I am very active on Facebook. My Facebook and myspace are full of my pictures and portfolios. You can also find pictures of me if you google my name.
Now this is what’s been happening to me since May.
I am trying hard to remove all traces of my photos etc (NEVER anything distasteful) from the internet, due to my engagement. I’ve deleted myspace, most of my modelling profiles, and cut my FB friend list from 800 to 149. Despite this, the following keeps happening -
Some girl (I assume) has obviously heard of me from somewhere, and must have saved a lot of my online pictures – and in saying this, I include pictures from my FB page as well as online ones open to anyone – and this girl was, during May – August sending me awful letters, from the US (I am in Europe). These included:
~Blown-up photos of me (like I say, some from my FB, some from my public online portfolios) calling me “sl*t” and “homewrecker”. I have no idea what that means, as I have never had an affair. I think someone has got the wrong end of the stick, and I DID used to flirt a lot with my guy friends on FB, and maybe some disgruntled wife followed our conversations (one guy in particular but it was innocent!)
~This girl has found out where I work, and called my boss and told her she’d be pressing charges against me for “harassing” her husband. She has also called me maybe 5 times, screaming at me to leave her man alone.
It has stopped for now, but it really freaked me out.
One of the letters she sent me alluded to the fact I am “inflammatory and flirtatious” because I have 1000s of photos on my FB account, which I think I am entitled to do on my own FB, but she has obviously seen me and her husband’s conversations/chats on his FB, and has decided to make my life a misery. I still have this guy as a FB friend.
I have spoken to the guy who I used to flirt with, and he insists it’s not his wife doing this. Besides, the letters are coming from the US, and we are in Europe, like I say.
What do I do? I have reported it but no crime has been committed. She’s made no threats exactly. When will this end? (I have not gotten anything for a few months now)
There is one married man on my friend list, and he, I, and my ex used to play poker. One night I wanted the married man to come to me and my boyfriend’s flat for a poker game and I said to him (on the FB public wall) “Come play POKE….r with me 
” and so maybe it’s this man’s wife who’s mad at me.
Best answer:
Answer by Savannah
Hello again. My original answer still is the same. I know I am obsessive, but Wow! lol
Give your answer to this question below!
secure your facebook!!
lockdown who can see what..
If you haven’t done anything wrong, don’t worry about it.
I can see you actually have added fresh details but all you’ve done is made me side with the wife. I am thinking the culprit is the wife of the man you said you wanted to “poke” you. You are fortunate she hasn’t taken a shotgun to your head….some would.
Same answer as last time.
This is a classic example of why you should never say or do anything on the internet that you don’t want to have to account for later. Looks like you really pissed someone off and you’ll just have to deal with it.
Maybe you should avoid having private conversations with married men and posting everything about yourself online. Might stop this kind of stuff? Don’t you think?
Your ego caused this. Reality check time.
sorry but FB and flirting aint a good combi, so act like a slapper someone will give you grief if they see what you have been up to…welcome to the real world filled with woman who are faithfull and modest and attention seekers…aka you.
This sounds like a long boring rant about how beautiful and wonderful you think you are. Why is your origin even relevant? Get over yourself.
If this woman is calling your boss etc. you need to do some damage control. simply explain that you don’t know who this person is, that she has you confused with someone else. Give your fiance the same explaination. After that, just ignore this woman. She’ll get bored and go away.
If you feel you have not done anything wrong, then do not worry.
My personal opinion would be: STOP ADVERTISING YOUR LIFE ON FB.
There are other ways to chat, invite or flirt. Y write on the wall and make it public.
Most of the people dont give a S*** of what is going on in your life.
So for now, stop worrying and avoid such scenarios henceforth.
This is where cross cultural diversity is a problem. Who is at fault here in this online playing, well honestly, the husband of the overbearing wife is at fault in my opinion. You cannot help the fact that you are attractive and men turn and look at you either in person or online. The man in question here must speak of you often to his insecure wife thus causing the hating that she is doing to you. My advise to you is to cut communication with this man and move on to get married and live a happy life with your soon to be husband. I would consider blocking the individual from viewing any of your pictures on facebook or myspace to stop the harassment his wife is giving to you. Who knows maybe he said your name instead of hers in an intimate setting, but there again that’s not your fault either…it’s her husband’s fault and she is severely insecure and looking to blame anyone but her own husband for his faults.
Hi, I didn’t see the first version of this question – but even though the way you are describing this wife makes her seem pretty unstable, you have to accept that it was your flirting that caused this, sometimes ‘flirty’ people don’t seem to understand how many people they can really hurt just by making a few ‘harmless comments’ – I have a good friend like this, sometimes I have to remind her just to be careful the way she talks to people she barley knows.
Yes, whoever this woman is, it is wrong to CONSTANTLY harass you like this – if it were me I would speak to you once (if at all) and then pay the real attention to my husband – but..not everyone is like that, so you’ll just have to wait it out and be more considerate in the future.
On one final note…way too many relationships are getting wrecked by FB these days – it’s ridiculous…*rolls eyes*
EDIT: Yea, do what bella below me says, sorry I didn’t give you any actual advice on how to deal with this woman ^_^
shut up! we “get it” your some kind of ” pretty” LOL i think you need to just change your # and when those letters get there just trash them dont eve read them and let your work know you have a psycho on you.
Judging from this question being on here the entire day. I’m beginning to think you’re the stalker. I can’t help but take the wife’s side.
Get completely off the internet, change your phone number and tell the people who answer the phones at work to screen your calls.
I am a homewrecker. I cheated on my husband with a married man and ruined his family. He loves his wife but I cant let go.