Question by sappe: Who thinks normal of Husbands who don’t put on their wedding bands?
We’ve been together for 8 yrs, married for 3. Unless he’s extremely good at hiding things, he seem honestly faithful to me. He just doesn’t like wearing wedding bands coz he says it’s too tight and says it’s uncomfortable. I think I only saw him wear it 1st 6 months of our marriage
He was married before and I remember a time when he said he didn’t wear wedding bands before. (ex-wife left him)
At first I was mad, but then I don’t want to force him to wear it if it’s uncomfortable. I thought it’s unfair, so I stopped wearing it as well.
Thing I don’t like about is that my friends would ask me “where’s your wedding ring? are you pretending to be single?” then I simply answer ” We don’t need it”.
or when I meet my husband’s friends, they say “oh, I didn’t know you were married ! ”
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Answer by vis
some people don’t like to wear rings..does he wear any other ring..if not than that is what it is..but if he wears other rings.than i would worry
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If it bothers you then get him a comfort band and tell him what it means to you, don’t compare the situation to the EX.hint,hint she is the EX ..and he didn’t wear it bc he was unhappy..hmmm..so don’t do that this is new and fresh . If it bothers you tell him go get him one that fits with comfort and whalla..it would bother me but we are two different people..if you are fine with it then fine..it is your marriage and your husband do what works for you!
get a wedding band tattoo, solved
no taking that off to hide
I don’t think wearing a wedding band is that big a deal. My father never wore one, but he wasn’t a cheater. My husband doesn’t wear one anymore because of a metal allergy, but he’d never cheat, either. I’d be FAR more concerned about the friends’ comment that they didn’t know he was married. That suggests that he doesn’t talk about you and doesn’t behave around them as though he IS married.
Not wearing a ring and not telling your friends you are married are two different things. Ask him to get one tattooed on just to see his reaction. You may just be living in a fool’s paradise.
As a male – I just don’t like that answer. He should get the ring one size larger. I would always try to find a way to wear my ring even if there was some problem with it. It just shows a certain mindset about the marriage.
It is not like you are asking him to wear a chastity belt. It is a tiny band of metal – I can’t even feel mine.
Yes, I used to be like you.
My husband actually traded his wedding band up for a “wedding watch”. A Rolex no less. He didn’t “need” one either. I didn’t wear mine much either. I told myself it was because I was careless and I would scratch it at work or take it off and lose it (I’m really not a big jewelry person anyway). Also he didn’t bother to buy me a ring. He gave me his deceased mother’s rings (not from his dad, but her second husband). I told myself that was sweet.
In the end he cheated in a way that would turn your stomach. I’m not a big tradition person but if I ever marry again, rings will be a part of it.
Take it and have it made larger to fit him, if he still doesn’t want to wear it then he lied to you.
Its an entire different story not to wear a ring and not to know someone was married. My hubby doesn’t wear a ring but all of his friends know that he is married. That would be my biggest concern. You have been together for 8 years and you are just now meeting some of his friends?
Try getting the ring enlarged then he won’t have an excuse.
Neither me or my wife wear wedding rings. We decided we we didn’t need a piece of metal to symoblise our love and committment to each other. Saying that we both have a tattoo behind our ears. She has a little music note -I love music- with the date we got married and I have a little paint brush on a french flag -She loves art and french and I couldn’t decide which one was best – with the date we got married.
My husband never wears his wedding band. It used to bother me, but not wearing the ring doesn’t make him any less married. I know he’s faithful, so it just seems petty to be upset about it.
I never did, or any other rings. He’s right, they are uncomfortable. In me, it made the joints hurt, but I also don’t like wearing a wristwatch. When I did, I used a wide leather band that the watch attached to. Besides, these days do you really think many single female care?
I never wore one when I was married and we lasted almost ten years. I just can’t stand to wear jewelry of any sort I find it annoying. and the ring wearing played no part in my getting divorced. Fidelity was never an issue.
My dad doesn’t wear his cause he works with electricity and gold is a very good conductor if you know what I mean. My mom doesn’t seem to have a problem with it at all. What you could have him do is maybe see if we wants to get a ring tattooed on his finger. My husband though about doing that for a while. He doesn’t like wearing rings because he has big knuckles and if they are big enough to fit over his knuckle they flop around on his finger. He ultimatly decided to get an actual ring, but a tattoo or maybe a different type of ring would solve the problem. Maybe you should get him a thinner band that is a comfort band so it doesn’t feel so tight. Or get his current ring resized.
my father and my husband never wore wedding bands. both work as farmers and mechanics. getting it caught on something could mean losing a finger or worse. However everyone knows both of them are married. I think you need to look at why he isn’t wearing it. and why do his friends not know he is married.. after 3 years.?? Im thinking you have a right to question to absence of it!