Question by em3.14159: What do I do about his psycho ex-wife who won’t go away?
She made him miserable for years and finally he left her. Then he met me and we fell in love fast. We want to have a positive, growth filled, normal life with no more drama, but She shows up at his work all the time. He tells her to leave and she just lingers. She even showed up at our house and our roommates unknowingly let her in. Then when they called us she stood outside forever and called my man to give her a ride home(of course, he didn’t). She calls him all the time with ultimatums. He has told her to move on countless times. She has blogged weird obsessive things online, like she’s totally decieving herself. She’s one of those narcissistic, “no one understands me”" let me bask in my darkness” types.That’s her business, I guess. I was mad at first but now I think it’s just sad and almost funny because she’s so evil and miserable, why would someone want to be with her when she acts like that? Without resorting to violence, how can I resolve this? Should I even say anything?
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Answer by Just Surfin
Tell HIM how she makes you feel, and make HIM deal with it.
If she won’t leave him alone, consider having him take out a restraining order on her.
YOU shouldn’t get in the middle of it, because she needs to hear it from HIM.
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you say nothing Have boyfriend get a restraining order or stalking orderout against her. Maybe than she’ll get the message. Good Luck With That One
Good luck, that’s all I have to say. You are willingly in this situation. You choose to stay in this situation, you can leave, but you stay. Try a restraning order I suppose…
just pray dat none of d basterds of ur his groups or anyone wud speak to her ,dat wud be gud for pyscho lady .dont bother her life
yes its not fair to you that you have to put up with an outrageous exwife. even though he’s not with her he’s still having to take away time, thought, and energy from you and giving it to her. she’s getting what she wants because she’s still getting some type of attention and a piece of him…even though its a bad type of attention. if i were you i would be angry because your harmless in this drama and he needs to do what he has to do to make her go away. he either needs to get a restraining order or you and him leave the city and leave no tracks so she cant find you. you shouldnt have to do anything your boyfriend needs to put a stop to this immediatly
ever hear of a restraining order?
Ignore her completely and she’ll go away.
Your husband needs to get a restraining order. Then the law will make her stay away from him.
If you could be her friend, maybe that’s what she needs. Get her some help, she needs counseling.
You have no place talking to his ex wife… it will be useless anyway.
If she is harassing him, he can file a restraining order against her for harassment. He can talk with the police department to see what constitutes harassment…
i hope it works out for the two of you.
she is miserable because u are with the man she loved, her life as she knew it is over with. if he was seeing u before his divorce was final, it probably does still hurt her. people who hurt will hurt others. do they have kids together? if not u could easily have him get a restraining order on her, and she would be out of your life, if they have children then its a little bit more involved. and your really only hearing one side of the story here. she hasn’t realized its over with for some reason.