Question by Layla L: What do I do to make feelings for an ex go away?
I broke up with someone about ten months ago. We were best friends for about three years. He went away and got married. Then all of a sudden when his marriage started going south he called me “as a friend” for advise regarding mental problems his wife seemed to be going thru. I talked him thru it for about six months and then he moved out and left his wife. He told me he wanted to get a divorce. We were still friends at the time and only friends. About three months after he moved out we started dating. After two months we finally slept together. I am the type of person that puts 110% into a relationship and I honestly thought him and I would be together forever. The relationship ended within six months of it starting. I am not sorry for the relationship at all. I am sorry I put all my time and effort to try and make it work which is something he did not want. Now my problem is I can’t seem to let my feelings for him go. I miss him soo much. I think I need my head checked
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Answer by Molly M
Ouch that hurts. I would seek counseling for this one. In time the feelings will fade..but counseling may give you more support right now.
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You can’t!!! But it’s harder when you know the person than if someone you just met. I myself puts in 110% to only get 5% back if i’m lucky. It will lasps as time goes by
You sound like a wonderful woman and a man would be totally lucky to have a person like you. Take a step back and think about why it didn’t work. Then think about why he wanted you in his life when the shit hit the fan. Will this person put in 110% or are you willing to do that for anyone that you love? Me, I’ll do that anyway.. even if they treat me like crap. It just part of your character. If you are still stuck on him you will not open yourself up to someone else, and that someone else may be the person that you are meant to be with. Make sense?
If you can, go away for a while. Nothing is better to take your mind off anything than a tropical vacation. Go yourself or with a friend. Do something totally out of character. Go out and rediscover yourself. Take up a new hobby. Use your friends for comfort. Vent and cry as needed, but don’t wallow. Appreciate the relationship for what it was and the lessons you learned from it, bless it and move on. You WILL get over this loss in you life. The time it takes is up to you. Good luck, been there, done that, understand your pain.
If you figure out the answer to that question email, fax, text, call or IM me ASAP I have been suffering with that ailment for 16yrs.
Didn’t it dawn on you if he didn’t want his new wife why would he want you. I bet who ever he is seeing now he is telling them the same thing he told you about his wife only now he has you to add to his list. He is the type of guy that puts the blame on everyone else. Like he told you that his wife was having mental problems what do you think your problem was. If we all would just use our heads before getting involved with someone who is married so much heart ache could been avoided but no you always think you have something that the wife doesn’t. One thing the wife seems to hold onto is his heart and that’s what the other woman can’t and won’t understand.