Question by Notyouraverageguy: what do with my crazy pregnant wife?
My wife goes from I want a divorce and i cant wait to get out of this house, to sending me texts saying “hey sexy give me a call when you get a chance….” and come hold me i am cold, so i start to spoon with her, and want to get close to have a relationship and when she leaves ask for hug and she goes what for…. I am really confused…she is pregnant and we have never really had a smooth relationship… but this sounds strange and I am living it…. I want to make my marriage work but this i “need you” and now leave me alone thing is bothering me. I want to be there for her but she can not forgive me she says and wants a divorce then tells me she will miss the good times…. Please help .. is this bipolar? and if we get a divorce what are the chances of me seeing my child or even dual custody?
4 hours ago – 4 days left to answer.
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she says that she can not forgive me for looking at porn, we have been having problems and i told her i want to be close to her before she was pregnant and she said no, I told her after her finding out that i looked at porn, and she says that is cheating. I would never cheat on purpose but what am i to do I know that I was wrong but i am sleeping on a air mattress in the guest room also. This sucks
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Answer by Bozz Mozz
You’re right, she is crazy… Nobody says spoon anymore.
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Dump her, thje kids probably not yours anyway
First off, you don’t have to include the word “crazy” when using the words “pregnant wife.” Its a given.
Many states won’t grant a divorce if the wife is pregnant for this very reason. Its a form of temporary insanity. Get through the pregnancy and post partum alive and see if you get your wife back.
You can’t begin to understand what hormones can do to a woman. Not to mention the discomfort of being pregnant. You will just have to accept that she is going to be unstable for the duration of the pregnancy. There is nothing you can do except agree with her and do what she tells you. You shouldn’t be thinking of divorce, you are bringing a child into the world and have a responsibility to that child beyond your own happiness. Just suck it all up and wait it out. Good luck. You have the sympathy of men everywhere.
It could be bipolar–sometimes it does not manifest itself until pregnancy.
Honor and respect her wishes for you not to look at porn— continuing to view it devalues her and the relationship. Cheating? yes in a sense, in that you are allowing a “third voice” into your relationship. You need to apologize to her and indicate and show that you have gained new understanding about this issue. (Get the book: Every man’s Battle and learn more how detrimental it is to your relationship)
She needs to work on forgiving you—as this will damage your relationship long term.
Work on healing the relationship —when she indicates she wants a divorce, listen and emphasize the importance of you both working on your marriage–so your child will feel secure.
Like you said, she’s pregnant. Which means she has a MILLION hormones and they are all on a roller coaster. Half of what she is saying, she doesn’t mean. She is not crazy just pregnant. Have patience.
it may be her hormones due to pregnancy. deal with it.
If you really want to make this work you should stop watching porn… is porn that important that you are willing to loose your wife and child don’t mess it up cause of porn ,just realize who u really need !she has a rite to be angry no girl wants to know that her husband needs porn it makes girl feel like she isnt doing a good job it hurts girls i know i have been threw this so many times before just leave porn its that simple…………………………… and she isnt bipolar she is in love she wants to be with you but shes just hurt i promise you this is how she feels 100% sure about this…………. and for the child if she doesnt want you part of the kids life she doesnt have to give u any rites the only way u will win is if u have lots of money your own house and dont do any drugs or an x confict
the way shes acting she loves you but she sounds like shes guilty of somethings so turn it back around on her askher questions about cheating…just stay away from the knives pregnant people are crazy…and unless u have a girl in the house with you if yall get a divlorce…then it will be very very hard to get dual custody
Pregnancy or not, your wife is a f*cking nut! Being pregnant is never a excuse to act like an azzhole! Having a baby is a blessing not a hindrance! Looking at porn is in no way shape or form, cheating! It would be different if you met these women, spoke to them, had sex with them etc..
As for your child, if it is yours (and I would get a DNA test done after the child is born) you have just as much right to have custody as she does. Good luck!
You need to ask her do she want to be married…If she act like she don’t know or if she tells you yes then turn around and tells you no…Yall need to go see someone before its too late. But u should have asked her how did she feel about u looking at porn a long time ago. I don’t think porn is really cheating. Its not liking u having sex with the girl or anything like that…Thats just how i feel…
she’s psycho
How do you know if she’s really pregnat? Did she ask on Answers?
FYI,
All pregnat woman are crazy. They are also crazy right after delivering. The important thing is for you to be around even if you are sleeping on an air mattress. My mistake was that I wasn’t around enough, and she started talking to her sisters and MIL. Then they ganged up on me. Next thing I knew, I was being served divorce papers.
she sounds just like me. here’s why: 1) Pregnant women are crazy and they remain that way for awhile after delivery. 2) i don’t like my man to look at porn because i look like a big huge house and that makes me sick if he will be checking out the sexy honeys while i’m there on the side feeling like sick ugly whale. 3) i do want divorce and leave me alone and i can make on my own and i don’t need you, but he did so many things wrong like hurt my feelings that day. 4) as a mother of two and 8 months preggos i have to say that i significantly improved my attitude when my kids turned one year old respectively.
good luck!