Question by Bob the Bob: Why do you think my pregnant wife is mad at me?
Ok, so, yesterday we got into an argument. We were sitting around watching TV and she decided she wanted some nachos.so I said: ” After this show we can go over to The Taco Bell, and get some.” So she goes: “Why don’t you just understand how I feel?! I’LL GO BUY THEM MY SELF SINCE YOU CLEARLY DON’T CARE ABOUT ME OR THIS BABY!” so I said: “You came to this conclusion simply because I am not going to drop everything to buy you some frickin nachos because of some weird food craving?” And she says: “I CANNOT BELIEVE YOU BOB YOU ARE SO INSENSITIVE I AM GOING TO BUY SOME NACHOS MYSELF!!”
SO I said: “WOULD YOU QUIT YELLING AT ME?”
She says: “I HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO YELL AT YOU!”
Finally I just became furious and said: ” Fine go buy some more food for your fat, pregnant a*s I don’t care!”
And she left crying.
She acts like everything is my fault even though I did nothing wrong! I am so so tired and we still have another three months….
Why does she get so mad at me!?
I do feel bad about what I said, but it was i the heat of the moment…. Why am I always the target of her anger though?
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Answer by cribohol
She’s mad at you because she’s pregnant, simple and sweet. Her emotions are allover the place and you can expect more of the same.
On the same token, you have to learn some more patience and walk away when the fighting resorts to sheer nonsense. And calling her a fat a*s does not help matters.
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Because she’s pregnant and hormonal.
Shes pregnant and have alot of different emotions. Best thing for you to do is jump to her every need.
Calling her a fat a, is extremely terrible. Alot of pregnant women will get self conscious because they are gaining weight.
Bring her a HUGE bag of nachos and say sorry! ;]
Alright, well clearly she would not have died if she waited until the show was over for you to go get her some nachos. But pregnant women aren’t always able to think clearly when their hormones start raging. She shouldn’t have gotten so upset over something so silly, but you should also understand that this is a hard time for her. Her whole body is changing inside and out, and you need to be a little more sensitive to that. You were completely, 100% wrong in saying, “Fine go buy some more food for your fat, pregnant a*s I don’t care!” That was extremely insensitive, and she very well could have realized after getting out of the situation that she was being irrational, only now, you have given her a valid reason to be angry with you.
EDIT** I’m not saying it’s right, but she’s taking it out on you because you’re the one who is there. Three more months isn’t that long. Soon it will all be over and your little one will be here. Her hormones should start shifting back to normal after birth.
Aww, she just wanted some nachos! My wife is 4 months pregnant and her emotions are all over the place. She cries when she watches the Christmas commercials on tv.
Think of it this way. What do you have to do for these 9 months? Does your stomach and legs swell up? Do you have to waddle around for almost a year? Do you have to push a 7 pound baby out? No. All you have to do is be supportive and understanding and get her some nachos if she’s hungry. And don’t call her fat and then wonder why she’s upset.
shes only mad at you because her hormones are like sky high..her emotions are all over the place. shes pregnant and shes in a sensitive stage in her life. be there for her and comfort her when she needs it (: hope all goes well!
Ok Bob, valuable lesson #1, NEVER under any circumstances should you EVER call your pregnant wife Fat or even worse a “fat, pregnant a*s”. You’re just asking for it then. I know that you were mad, and we ALL say things we don’t necessarily mean and might regret later when we’re mad, but a word of advice, just don’t go there. It’ll be so hard for her to forget that you ever said that and she’ll be hurt for much longer than you could even imagine. If you think about it from her perspective, her body has gone through some drastic changes over the course of a few months! I remember feeling pretty crappy about the way my body was looking sometimes because even though I KNEW I was pregnant, and there was a baby in there and all, I just didn’t feel or look like what I thought “myself” looked like. So here I am having some insecurities about the way I look, so imagine if my husband called me a fat a*s! It would have immediately confirmed all my initial fears that I’ve lost all my appeal to him, and even if he apologized and said he didn’t mean it, I would still think in his moment of anger the truth came out and he actually thinks I’m hideous (carrying HIS child!!!) So I imagine that is how your wife felt when you said that.
How would you feel if your boss told you that to be able to get the job or promotion you want, you’d have to lose hair (have a male pattern baldness thing going on) or gain 30 pounds all in a beer belly for about 9 months but then you could eventually go back to normal ( I used those examples because those are usually what men are most vain about). Yeah, doesn’t sound so appealing does it? Well, imagine how you’d feel in those 9 months. You know you’re working towards that promotion but you’d feel sometimes downright ugly in the process because you’d feel like you’re just not you anymore!!! So women have to go through 9 months of some intense changes to their physical appearance to eventually create something wonderful, and unfortunately, sometimes all those changes get to us and we need more than usual assurance that you still love us and find us attractive.
It might sound crazy to you, but that’s pretty much the truth of it. Sometimes I’d find myself snapping at my husband because I’ve been so miserably uncomfortable and bloated and feeling fat for the past 8 months, and of course I would know that I shouldn’t snap, and I would apologize later, but my husband always cut me some slack and I’ve always been eternally grateful to him for it. remember all those extra hormones floating around in there. They DO make women more emotional sometimes.
Now if she’s like this ALL the time, then maybe you should sit down and have a frank talk with her and tell her that you understand she’s going through a lot of changes and you’d love to help in anyway, but you don’t like it when she yells, or accuses you of something out of the blue in a very emotional confrontational manner like she did in the argument above. Now remember, talk about this NOT when you guys are already in a middle of a fight, but when you’re both calm and ready to talk. Tell her it makes you feel offended that she’d think you don’t care about her or love her and the baby, and tell her that you’re trying your best but sometimes feel like your best isn’t good enough since she keeps having these blow ups. explain that you’d like her to tell you what to do to help her through this and I am sure she’ll be receptive of all of this.
You are obviously trying your best to cater to her needs (you were going to get her the nachos) but you got frustrated and snapped at her when she sort of took things out of context according to you. To her, she felt like since you didn’t want to go get what she wanted right now (not dotting on her) then you must not care. It’s not a logical thing for her to be thinking but then again you have to remember that this argument wasn’t actually about the nachos at all…..She must have been feeling this way beforehand and you not jumping up to get the nachos right then and there just confirmed that her suspicions were true (again, not the most logical conclusion she could make but that’s what happened). So talk to her about her feelings and why she would bring something up like that to begin with, you might be surprised at what she’s actually feeling and she might give you insight as to how to help her not feel that way.
Good luck!! I wish you both the best, and congratulations on your upcoming fatherhood!
That was a terrible thing for you to say, truly disgusting. She is angry because she is hormonal, it’s perfectly normal and she cannot control it. She got mad cos she felt like you were being insensitive, as she’s pregnant the thought that she may be overreacting doesn’t occur to her.
At the end of the day, you need to have alot more patience with her, and she is carrying your baby, so she should be more important than tv.
My boyfriend went into town the other for something, was going 5 minutes away from a maccies, and i REALLY wanted a maccies (that i would pay for myself if he went and got it) but he refused to do it because he couldn’t be bothered to walk 5 minutes to mcdonalds for me. i didn’t talk to him for like 3 hours. if i wasn’t pregnant i probably wouldn’t of reacted as strongly as i did, but i am, so i do. I go mental if he doesn’t reply to me immediately when i speak to him or ask him something for being ignorant, which tbf he is pretty ignorant. But the point is you HAVE to be more patient with her, no matter what you do you are always going to be in the wrong because her hormones are all over the place, and you’re just there. You are just going to have deal with it i’m afraid.
You are making it alot worse by shouting at her and insulting her though, you need to stop doing that immediately, and try to be more understanding, it’ll be over soon and you’ll have your wife back. until then, suck it up there’s nothing you can do about it. Try and spare a thought to what she’s going through. It’s alot worse than what you think you’re going through.