Question by CrystalDice: Why is my cousin being rude to me?
I visited my cousin recently, he was distant and not talkative, i happened to be in his area and he invited me out for dinner.
His son who is my second cousin , 17 who i have always been nice to -came along..last year my friend who worked for MTV gave him and his mom a private one hour tour of the MTV building..
Well, he would not talk to me, i tried making conversation with him, he ignored me. Then i was talking to him about a concert he went to, he took off right in the middle of our conversation.
Then we were having dinner, he was sitting in the corner with his mom, my cousins wife, i caught my second cousinmaking fun of me,, he was flipping his hair (which i do sometimes cause i have very long hair) then he would laugh with his mother in the corner,, his mother then asked me “hey how old r u now”, I say 27, she says “oh your getting better looking as your aging”
i felt really uncomfortable and uneasy,, my cousin who i was sitting with was just unfriendly and seemed like he just
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he just met me to be polite and was forced out of guilt..
I felt they had some inside joke on me or something.. Then they told me they were going to be in my area for christmas, his wife left a message saying shes ready for the new tour of MTV with her son who was making fun of me.
I just called back and said sorry my friend is away and im gonna be busy so we cant do the tour nor can i see you..
Why was my cousin rude??
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Answer by craft painter
Sorry to say but it sounds like he was making fun of you. Maybe they thought you were too nice a person. I know that sounds stupid to say but sometimes people are just like that. He is seventeen and they seem to make fun of everyone at that age. He was bored and would rather do something else then be with you or even his parents. I do not know why they would give you the cold shoulder too though. I think it was very rude of them all. I certainly would not go out of my way again to feel the way you do about it. I also would not worry my mind about how they treated me either. It just sounds like they are not very nice people to be around.
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I have absolutely NO idea.
I too had a similar encounter with one of my cousins.
When we were children, our families were very close, & we grew up together almost like brothers and sisters.
At a family gathering, I saw my cousin walking toward me, & I smiled and said “Hello”. She totally ignored me and walked past me like I wasn’t even there. Strange!
It didn’t go as far as the behaviour from YOUR cousin & his family, but I was certainly taken aback by it.
On any future encounters with my cousin, I will certainly be more guarded, although I won’t hold a grudge if she behaves more in the way I would expect her to behave towards me.
Maybe that day she had her mind on other things.
But that wouldn’t explain why your cousin behaved the way he did toward you, & I am not so sure that you will ever come to understand why, or if it even matters.
What is important is that YOU KNOW you did no harm to him.
So his behaviour toward you & his allowing his family to behave badly toward you should be a signal for you to keep a safe distance from them from now on.
Obviously I don’t need to tell you this since you have already put that idea into practice.
They can’t be very bright to think they can treat you that way, & then turn around & expect you to do them favours like arranging tours of MTV for them.
maybe the family felt you were rude to them once. if not, it does seem like they were making funof you and being rude because of an inside joke. do you have any mutual friends or family that wont take sides. maybe ask about whats happening. but then that may have been a contributing factor.
dont be afraid to tell them where to stick that tour. you tell them they can go if they stop being so childish or whatever you want to say.
best way to go is to ask through mutual friends/family
g’luck
It either sounds like he likes you or ur just getting made fun of. Try to avoid them , it doesn’t seem like a very nice situation to be around.